2 Months since DDay - Life has been amazing **Updated**

[BillPaxton2424]

2.5 months ago I told you guys the story about my LTR GF who invited me to Europe after graduation. Planned to get married, move there etc. She ended up banging some other dude and when confronted said she was raped.

 

Since then I've dropped 50 lbs of fat and started lifting and am back to my Air Force weight. 248 lbs to 198 lbs in 2.5 months.

 

I got hired at a Fortune 100 company in my home town and have been working there for about a month now making really good money.

 

I still think about the situation from time to time and if I made the right decision in leaving. Was she lying? Was she actually raped? Did she cheat? What was going through her head when she threatened to kill me when I told her we were done... And what was she thinking the following day when she asked me if we could still be together if she entered therapy, or if we could get back together in 2 months. (I said no to all of that)

 

But my life is so much more peaceful now that I don't have to deal with that stuff anymore. I am pretty lonely, and don't have really any friends outside of my family, but I am focusing on bettering myself and realize if I hadn't found out about what happened I would have proposed to her while on the trip. I had the ring purchased and was waiting for the right time.

 

Just an update. How are you all doing?

[JS84]

Thanks for the update. Glad to hear things are working out for you and you're moving on.

[mrs rubble]

Sounds like you're doing great, time to make some new friends now join a club explore your interests and meet likeminded people.

Congats on the weight loss.

[sandylee1]

Great update. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

[David33]

Congrats. Life does get easier when you make decisions and act. Cheers

[BillPaxton2424]

Dumped my ex after she said she was raped in Italy...

 

She cheated on me a year before that.

 

Before I left she asked if I would stay and seemed very upset that I was leaving...

 

Is there any reason?

[BaileyB]

Is there any reason?

 

To contact your ex? After she cheated on you, and you were so cruel to her when you dumped her?

 

After all that drama, I can't even believe you are asking the question...

[BillPaxton2424]

GF cheated on me while on vacation and lied about being raped. I'm 90% over it but would like to send this to her network as a way to get back at the narc.

 

 

I just wanted to reach out about a situation involving Veronica. We were good friends for the last 4 years and I am worried she may be in a very, very dark place right now. She has been dealing with suicidal tendencies, self-harm and severe depression for years and needs your help more than ever now. I was with her on vacation from June to July this past summer and she confided in me that she had been sexually assaulted while on the trip by an ex bf from almost a decade ago. I let her know that she had my full support and got her parents involved so she could get proper, professional help. However, I had no choice but to break up with her and cut contact with her because she physically assaulted me and threatened to kill me, presumably while suffering from a severe post-traumatic stress event. I am asking you to please keep her in your thoughts and prayers and support her with her recovery.

[d0nnivain]

No. Just leave it be. Let karma get her. You stay out of it. Doing anything now just makes her the victim & you the crazy EX.

[Mardelis]

The message will clearly show that you cannot be trusted with a person's innermost secrets that they confided in you. It won't accomplish anything else, except possibly get a few people who know her well to be more concerned about her, but that doesn't seem to be your intent- all you want to do is "get even".

 

Best revenge is to live happy and don't dwell on the person who you feel wronged you in some way.

[BillPaxton2424]

She cheated on me with an ex and lied about being raped. I should just walk away?

[d0nnivain]

She cheated on me with an ex and lied about being raped. I should just walk away?

 

 

YES!

 

I know what happened (or at least what you explained on the other thread.)

 

You don't get to extract any sort of revenge. The best revenge is living well. Do that. Leave her alone.

 

I promise if you do what you are talking about here, she will be perceived as the victim and you will be seen as the crazy EX. Is that what you want?

 

You have to just be done with her.

[BillPaxton2424]

what about this then?

 

Be advised, I just wanted to reach out about a situation involving Veronica. We were good friends for the last 4 years and I am worried she may have ruined a complete stranger’s life. She has been dealing with suicidal tendencies, self-harm and severe depression for years and needs your help more than ever now. I recently went on a trip with her to Italy where she cheated on me with an ex and lied about being raped to cover up for it. She gave me a random person’s name when I asked who did this, and they were reported to the authorities. I had no choice but to break up with her and cut contact with her because she physically assaulted me and threatened to murder me, presumably while suffering from a severe post-traumatic stress event.

 

no lies, and she isn't the victim.

[d0nnivain]

No, no, no. Post nothing. Mind your own business. She is out of your life. Leave her there. Stop bothering about what she is or is not doing now.

 

Upon learning her true nature, you rightly broke up with her. That is the sum of what is in your power to do.

 

Anything you do now smacks of you not being over her & being the crazy EX. Anything you do now paints her as the victim of your continuing to pester her & bother about her since the break up.

 

Stand down.

 

Get involved in anything else & forget about her.

[BillPaxton2424]

So there is no benefit to exposing someone who lied about rape and threatened to murder you?

[BaileyB]

Upon learning her true nature, you rightly broke up with her..

 

This is the bottom line.

 

Move on with your life, forget about this woman.

 

Sending this message definitely makes you sound like a bitter, vindictive, and crazy ex-boyfriend. You have no business being in her life anymore...

[Zahara]

You also posted on the Breakup forum. I have a feeling you’re thinking of ways to create drama in order to provoke a reaction. You noted in another thread it’s been 2 months NC and that you were feeling better. Keep staying on that path. There are times when an emotion can spring out of nowhere and snowball into an impulsive reaction. Step back and channel you focus on your healing and moving forward. Anything other than that is only going to derail you and set you back.

 

I understand you’re hurt and angry but this is not the healthy way to manage those emotions. It’s counter productive.

 

If anything her network is going to look at you as if you’re nutters. Their loyalty is to her, not you.

[BillPaxton2424]

You guys are right. LOL. I just had a conversation with her ex before me who confirmed that she is indeed crazy. He told me that the person she was texting/hanging out with while I was on the trip with her was her ex from like 10 years ago.

 

That is confirmation that she was not raped, and a big weight has been lifted. Shes just a ****ty person.

[FMW]

She cheated on me with an ex and lied about being raped. I should just walk away?

 

This is vengeful and vindictive and just unhealthy. She has problems but it's becoming clear you do too.

 

I understand it was traumatic and painful for you. But life can be that way sometimes. You show your character by how you deal with it.

 

You seriously need to work on getting past this - not getting revenge, not wallowing in it and obsessing over it.

[sutsie]

Awesome update. Keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about that broad. I'm in the same boat with the weight loss. Dropped 25-30 pounds in the past 6 weeks just focusing on bettering myself. Thanking God at this point for the girl dumping me as I'm better off in every which way possible now expect for of course the loneliness, but that **** will figure itself out in time. I'll upgrade from my ex in every which way possible. May actually find a girl that cares to communicate and values me.