Bald

[despairingbuttrying]

When's the last time you saw a bald man dating/going out with a really good looking woman?

 

It's rare in my opinion, even for those bald guys who still look good with a bald head.

 

A receding and obvious balding is clearly unattractive but totally bald puts women off too. Of course there'll be some women who will be into the bald look but it's more of a "fetish" kind of thing. Baldness is seen as universally unattractive and if you are bald at a relatively young age, your dating prospects really take a blow.

 

I don't want to believe all the sympathetic cries of "it's what inside that counts" and it's about confidence etc. but the reality is that women care about looks as much as men do and generally speaking baldness is not viewed as attractive. A bald shiny head is for the vast majority of women not something that turns their heads in the same way overweight women aren't going to have men chasing after them in a hurry.

Edited October 5, 2018 by despairingbuttrying

[Happy Lemming]

I had a neighbor that was bald in his early 30's. (He shaved what little bit of hair he had left) He got all kinds of good looking women. He worked out in the gym everyday (for several hours) and was an ex-ranger. He had the confidence and the body, he didn't need hair. We'd go bar hopping and he had no problem reeling them in.

[BaileyB]

A bald shiny head is for the vast majority of women not something that turns their heads in the same way overweight women aren't going to have men chasing after them in a hurry.

 

Are we really going to have this discussion again...

 

Dude, you are not going to get any sympathy from me. Two of my best friends are married to bald men. My partner has a seriously receding hairline, and he makes my heart go pitter patter...

 

As Henry Ford once said, "Whether you believe it to be true, or whether you don't, it will be..."

 

The problems you are having with women have nothing to do with what's on top of your head, and everything to do with what's happening inside your head. Your thinking is so self limiting that it's doubtful you will find what you want. Certainly not with this attitude.

 

As for the comment about overweight women, well... You are entitled to your opinion. Believe what you want to believe...

Edited October 5, 2018 by BaileyB

[thefooloftheyear]

Gee....I don't really see too many women turning their noses up at Dwayne Johnson, or any of the other bald men who are considered smoking hot by most women...

 

Now...I will say, some guys have very odd shaped head/necks and would probably look better with hair..But even they manage ok in my experience..

 

It's just another excuse guys make for other reasons they cant get with women....Most women don't really find it all that much of a downer and many actually prefer it..

 

TFY

[basil67]

My absolutely gorgeous, singer & actress niece married a bald guy.

[Chilli]

Yep . Just another guy shooting himself in the foot all over the internet.

Seen a zillion bald guys of all kinds with women of all kinds

love is in the eyes of the beholder.

[Veronica73]

When's the last time you saw a bald man dating/going out with a really good looking woman?

 

I don't want to believe all the sympathetic cries of "it's what inside that counts" and it's about confidence etc. but the reality is that women care about looks as much as men do and generally speaking baldness is not viewed as attractive. A bald shiny head is for the vast majority of women not something that turns their heads in the same way overweight women aren't going to have men chasing after them in a hurry.

 

I see bald men with gorgeous women all the time.

 

And I’m sorry, the reality absolutely is NOT that women care about looks as much as men do. I don’t believe that for a second.

 

Also, as far as overweight women goes... I know overweight women who are with wonderful, attractive, successful men who dote on them. I’m not convinced that we all have to fit into the standards that the media would have us believe we have to, in order to get a good man. I’m the heaviest/least attractive I’ve ever been and I still have 3 good guys pursuing me right now.

[Mumbles]

You have to own it - thats my opinion. Mens attractiveness seems to be intimately linked to their confidence levels more than any other single attribute.

 

I'm balding, in 10 years or less I'm going to have to decide if I'm going to fully shave or go with a skullet

 

It seems to me certainly true that some men have a head shape that lends itself to 'wearing' baldness more easily, others don't - I don't. So I'm preparing myself, its coming.

 

It might be worth getting a fashion coach to create a new look, in an overall sense, which includes a shiny dome.

[preraph]

Realistically, being bald isn't as bad of a dealbreaker as it once was, but it's the equivalent to being somewhat overweight. And so if you married someone while you had hair who was beautiful, you likely will be able to keep her if baldness is the only issue. Everyone is attracted to looks first because that's all you know about a person at first. But some hot babe isn't likely to stick around long enough to "fall in love with the person" if she can just go date a nice person with hair instead and be that much more attracted. The exception is the same as with any other thing: Unless you have something special going on that makes you attractive, fame, money, big muscles (but only for the women who like that, not all of them do).

 

For men, it's bald and short. For women, it's fat and flat.

[Veronica73]

For women, it's fat and flat.

 

Lol! Again, I think some would be surprised at how little reality matches up with what we are told we need to be, to be considered attractive.

 

I’m quite flat (at least when I’m in the shape I like to be in). Have never had a problem attracting quality men.

[preraph]

A fair amount of men don't want fat or flat, just saying. I was flat too, but it was in the 70s before everyone had fake ones, so I didn't do bad myself, but I did get rejected for it more than once instead of a guy getting serious.

[FMW]

OP, you're judging how women look by saying that you never see a "really good looking woman" with a bald guy.

 

We've all told you in a previous thread that women often find bald guys attractive. It's kind of hard to feel sorry for you while you're the one judging how attractive someone is

[treehugger12]

Not trying to toot my own horn or anything but I think I look great for my age, late 40’s, I would give myself a “9”, I have a huge crush on a guy in his mid 40’s, who is bald, he shaves his head but you can tell he’s balding badly. Too bad we are both married other wise I would love to be his girlfriend. I think we both have that attraction with each other but know not to cross the line. It’s so hard to be around him sometimes, I’m so crazy attracted to him. My husband on the other hand has a full set of beautiful hair.

[Mumbles]

Lol! Again, I think some would be surprised at how little reality matches up with what we are told we need to be, to be considered attractive.

 

I’m quite flat (at least when I’m in the shape I like to be in). Have never had a problem attracting quality men.

 

Yes, sure, but social attractiveness at any given point in time usually follows a bell curve. The vast majority fall somewhere in the middle (ish) and everyone else is someplace on the curve ... a relatively small percentage overall fall into the unbelievably attractive end and likewise relatively few fall into the truly ugly end.

 

There is little to be done about intrinsic attractiveness, but we all work with what we have.

 

Ultimately there is someone for everyone, and usually not just 'one' someone, but the numbers fall away when you're not naturally in the middle of the curve.

 

The thing is, we all don't need literally thousands of suitors. A decent handful across ones life is usually enough and most of us should be able to bump into those people no matter where you might sit on the curve.

[Blanco]

Bald only looks weird if you've got a weird head and/or you're not in good physical shape.

 

If a guy is bald/balding, his best bet is to make sure he's doing everything he can to stay in above average physical condition. Lift weights, eat well, etc. Baldness matter a lot less if the guy looks great with or without clothes.

[MidwestUSA]

Shemar Moore.

 

But then there's those abs, and those pearly whites, and those tatts , and......

[Gretchen12]

Do you realize how many balding men there are? Balding is more like the norm not the exception. How can women reject them all?

[spiderowl]

Actually, I have a friend who is always attracted to bald men. She is very pretty and a multi-talented person. She could have her pick of guys. Everyone is different.

[guest569]

Actually, I have a friend who is always attracted to bald men. She is very pretty and a multi-talented person. She could have her pick of guys. Everyone is different.

 

And does that mean she has a fetish? Apparently that is the only explanation.

[Haydn]

`Hair today, gone tomorrow`

[5x5]

When's the last time you saw a bald man dating/going out with a really good looking woman?

 

I can't recall, probably because I was too busy combing my hair.

[carhill]

Back when I was young, the bald lady's man on and off the screen was Yul Brynner, seen in that shot in his later years with his daughter Victoria. However, he was also quite the looker with hair, supporting the premise that an attractive man can look good with or without hair.

 

Myself, I've seen plenty of bald guys married to or involved with attractive women. All depends on the man. I didn't do that bad myself even though I was lousy at dealing with going bald. Should've buzzed/shaved it all off sooner, ala Brynner. Did much better after that. Like Yul, I'm Russian and pretty similar shape and features. Didn't have his charisma though. Did seem to do better with FSU ladies though. The whole package seemed to fit better with them whether they were here in US for generations or back home.

 

However, in the big picture, dating/mating is very discriminatory and all else being equal, women go for their ideal and if that includes hair, it does. Plenty turned me down for just that reason and told me so. Even my exW was a bit ambivalent at first, she later said. Don't fault them at all. Appearance and attractiveness is important and individual.