Still Coping with Emotional Dysregulation

[brigit87]

Some call it BPD...but I'm told I never had it by the professionals.

 

Not true. I'm sure I had it and still do because I can feel it lurking from time to time. When the borderline emotions arise they like to stay a while.

 

Now that I'm older I can suppress and bite back the crazy.

 

But I know it's still there and I try not let it get the best of me.

 

Is there anyone out there that still struggles with their BPD traits?

[Ronni_W]

Some people used to think that I had 'BPD traits', but it ended up just being that I hadn't yet learned a better way to respond to the more negative stimuli in my environment, from the people around me.

 

For me, I started to be able to manage it better after I took a stress management course - which wasn't the reason that I took the course, but it was a nice bonus. .

 

I'm not sure how you define your 'borderline emotions'; for me it was more about getting very frustrated, impatient, angry...and then letting that out in non-constructive and destructive ways,

or, otherwise, seething internally about it. But, once I started to realize that there was a better way than both of these two, that got me to look into topics like emotional intelligence,

gaining more accurate perspectives on things in my life, and learning how to ignore other people's emotional and psychological 'garbage'.

 

Wishing you better days ahead.

[divegrl]

I have borderline tendencies and yes I do struggle.

 

Meditation has helped me become aware of my thoughts and emotions. I can now watch my emotions without having to act on them.

 

For me the hardest part is the feeling of abandonment. And this is very tough. A strong spiritual life is the only thing that has helped.

 

Good luck my friend. You are not alone. Hugs.

[ExpatInItaly]

Some call it BPD...but I'm told I never had it by the professionals.

 

Not true. I'm sure I had it and still do because I can feel it lurking from time to time. When the borderline emotions arise they like to stay a while.

 

Now that I'm older I can suppress and bite back the crazy.

 

But I know it's still there and I try not let it get the best of me.

 

Is there anyone out there that still struggles with their BPD traits?

 

I don't, but my ex is diagnosed BPD. So while I cannot relate with how you feel personally as someone struggling with the condition, I can certainly identify with how it affects relationships.

 

You should do a search on this forum for the user Downtown. You will find a wealth of information and posts about BPD, and several posters' personal experiences with it - both as those suffering from it themselves and those whose partners and ex-partners do.

 

I hope you find your inner peace, OP.

[brigit87]

Some people used to think that I had 'BPD traits', but it ended up just being that I hadn't yet learned a better way to respond to the more negative stimuli in my environment, from the people around me.

 

For me, I started to be able to manage it better after I took a stress management course - which wasn't the reason that I took the course, but it was a nice bonus. .

 

I'm not sure how you define your 'borderline emotions'; for me it was more about getting very frustrated, impatient, angry...and then letting that out in non-constructive and destructive ways,

or, otherwise, seething internally about it. But, once I started to realize that there was a better way than both of these two, that got me to look into topics like emotional intelligence,

gaining more accurate perspectives on things in my life, and learning how to ignore other people's emotional and psychological 'garbage'.

 

Wishing you better days ahead.

 

Thank you for your good wishes. Mostly I feel emotionally fragile and easy prey to those around me.

[brigit87]

I have borderline tendencies and yes I do struggle.

 

Meditation has helped me become aware of my thoughts and emotions. I can now watch my emotions without having to act on them.

 

For me the hardest part is the feeling of abandonment. And this is very tough. A strong spiritual life is the only thing that has helped.

 

Good luck my friend. You are not alone. Hugs.

 

I have the abandonment issue as well. And I cannot trust anyone or my own feelings. I'm always stressed.