speedyturtle Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 (edited) hi everyone, i'm looking for some opinions/insights on my situation background: my ex bf of 2 years broke up with me. reasons were the recent petty fights and him feeling like he lost sight of himself/his goals (we're young; early 20s). most of our relationship was really good and loving with no abuse/cheating and i always felt like we had a strong connection, so i was devastated when he broke up with me from a big fight we had. i tried to talk it out with him a week after the breakup but to no avail. he said he didn't see me in his future. i cried and pleaded but took what i had left of my dignity and went strict NC. he kept me as a friend on facebook but restricted me the day after the breakup. a few days later, he cut me off instagram and snapchat after he watched a story i posted on instagram (it was only a picture of amusement park tickets). i assumed he did this perhaps he's too hurt to see me pop up on his feed. the accident: it's been 9 weeks of strict NC (10 weeks since BU) and i've been going strong until a few days ago. my facebook glitched and sent a cat video i was watching to my ex bf (i won't go into details of how but it definitely was not intentional). i nearly got a heart attack and almost started crying from panic and tried to delete the message but i'm sure it got delivered. i thought to myself, the universe is really trying to f me up right now. all my hard work of strict NC gone.. i didnt explain that it was an accident as i thought that he probably thought i'm using the video as an excuse to talk to him. he didn't reply to it and to my surprise he didn't unfriend/block me either. i assumed he would since he deleted me off instagram/snapchat right after he saw me post on my story. my question: during the breakup he said we wouldn't get back together and we can't be friends (i agreed to this as i knew being friends would hurt me as well). so i'm wondering why is he still keeping me as a friend on facebook after my slip up if he said we wouldn't get back together/doesn't see me in his future? i thought that maybe he didn't want to seem like a douche by unfriending me but he already showed that by cutting me off on the other social media platforms. i do want him back but gave up on hope a few weeks ago. and i'm probably reading too much into it but hearing what other people think about this might help me move past this as i've been bothered by it. Edited October 9, 2018 by speedyturtle Link to post Share on other sites
Mardelis Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 Why are YOU still keeping him as a FB friend? Take control. Defriend him. Block him on all social media sites and on your phone and emails. You'll feel better afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
lifeofapirate Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 SpeedyTurtle, Here are a couple of resources on no contact and if you should block your ex on social media during that time. First, here's a video where a relationship coach says you shouldn't: And here's a detailed article on The No Contact Rule. I tend to agree that blocking your ex on social media during no contact will probably just make you look petty. If you want this person back, it's not a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Mardelis Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 I tend to agree that blocking your ex on social media during no contact will probably just make you look petty. To who? Who cares what he thinks. At the very least she can defriend him so she doesn't have to see his posts and worry about sending him something by mistake. If you want this person back, it's not a good idea. That ship has sailed. Link to post Share on other sites
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