Author RoseGold18 Posted October 10, 2018 Author Share Posted October 10, 2018 Indeed shocking considering you cheated on your own marriage at least twice and over several years. RoseGold18, there's two separate issues here. One is, what kind of relationship do you want to be in? But the second, equally important, is what kind of person - and partner - will you be? If your MO is to look elsewhere for satisfaction when things get tough in your marriage, hard to predict long-term success... Mr. Lucky I’ve only started to cheat since June, so 4-5 months. I was completely faithful for 10 years in my current relationship and I’ve been completely faithful to all partners in the past. This isn’t my MO and this isn’t really who I am. I basically feel neglected emotionally by my husband for the last ten years and I’ve finally caved. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 So much depends on what kind of man he is, which we strangers on the forum simply can't know. There are plenty of people in the world who have stable open marriages or multiple relationships and treat their partners decently. If he's a guy like that, he will be happy to continue your relationship on the same level that it has been before, and he would not consider you a 'whore' because that would be insanely hypocritical... you haven't done anything he hasn't done. There are married men who want to screw around no-strings-attached. If he's a guy like that, he may get nervous once you're no longer married, thinking that you'll want more than he's willing to give. Guys like that tend to dump their APs as soon as they become too needy, or potentially needy. And there are men who only find extramarital sex interesting if it's a new challenge. If he's a jerk like that, then he'll drop you instantly once you're single, because he's already WON so there's nothing left to get from you. However, none of that should be a factor when it comes to deciding what to do about your marriage. Are you certain that it's dead and you don't want to fix it? Then get a divorce. Do the decent thing. What happens after that is unknown, you'll face it when you get there. Maybe you'll find happiness with this guy, or with some other guy, or by yourself, doesn't matter, but you'll be free to make your own path. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 I’ve only started to cheat since June, so 4-5 months. I was completely faithful for 10 years in my current relationship and I’ve been completely faithful to all partners in the past. This isn’t my MO and this isn’t really who I am. I basically feel neglected emotionally by my husband for the last ten years and I’ve finally caved. Everyone who cheats has plenty of reasons why. Those that don't have plenty of reasons why not. Look, I don't judge what you've done. But having endured the pain, you should come out of this gaining some insights both into yourself and relationships in general. I'm just sayin'... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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