darkmoon Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 (edited) So this ex-friend of mine is out of my life for good. Two years of quietly putting up with dominance and now I realize I am better off without her. She just can not help her nature. She dumped me in anger, for a second time, and I never took her back though she expected me to. I know she is a narcissist, having studied her and listened to therapists. Good riddance. I am friends with a mutual friend. And here is the part I want to tell … When my ex-friend first joined our group, 5 years ago, she did not like the mutual friend and told one of our group (sadly deceased now, but our much-loved gang leader) not to bring her along. We wanted her there. The ex did not. The dominant ex-friend has kind of taken over as leader, in that she likes to organise dinners when we all meet on birthdays. Meh, I know them all anyway. She only knew a few of us. Anyway, the ex-friend got everybody's phone numbers for the next dinner at our mutual friend's birthday. and our mutual friend does not mind this, though I would. I am aware that the ex-friend wants to broaden her social life using the birthday dinners. I question my motives too. But I do not like her. She contacts our mutual friend every few months. I contact her once/twice a week and visit her. So do I tell her that the ex-friend did not want to know her and/or uses her? Edited October 10, 2018 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
shydad Posted October 18, 2018 Share Posted October 18, 2018 So do I tell her that the ex-friend did not want to know her and/or uses her? No. This could cause you to look negative. I think it's best just not to say anything. Link to post Share on other sites
grays Posted October 18, 2018 Share Posted October 18, 2018 I wouldn’t. Link to post Share on other sites
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