help with premature man

[jim]

ok, ok, this is really embarrasing but what the hell.

 

i'm 29 and suffer from premature ejaculation.

 

i know their are more people out there.

has anyone had any success with dealing with this? i want to be able to be a great lover for my wife.

 

please help.

 

thanks

[kscholze]

I have had that problem in certain positions. Hewre is what worked for me with my last GF. She would get on top and would just work back and forth so I stayed in the whole time. I could do this for a long time with out "losing it" she would get off as many times as she wanted and then we would switch and I would do my thing. Try it.

[Toni_no12002]

hi dont worry to much about it if your with someone who loves you they will help.i know im a woman but ive heard many things about it.you could try masturbating more often as it seems to help.or even look up on the internet about it.thereb are probably forums about it and advice extra.look it up

[Ladyjane14]

Talk to your doctor about this. A low dose of anti-depressant medication might help. Many seratonin uptake inhibitors can have sexual side-effects. Orgasm is sometimes more difficult to achieve. This can work in your favor.

 

p.s. Seriously, don't take any prescription medication that is not approved by your medical doctor. You could mess yourself up.

 

And don't be embarrassed to talk to him/her about it. Your doctor has heard it all before.

[scobro]

The main thing that triggers this is you get too excited,Think of it on a scale of 1-10 if you enter at one slow thrusts you get to 6 fast thrusts 8 and then finally when you want to come 10.Guys with PE start at 8 or 9 you have to do something called desensitizing the frenelum and work on arousal stages stopping and starting let it go down to 3 then up to 8 right before you cum stop maintain control go back down to 4 start again etc.Its hard to do especially with someone new and you are totally aroused.A little alcohol helps make you last but a little not all stinking drunk.Whats weird is oral sex I can last way longer than penatration.

[SuperMonk]

Here's a tip, don't laugh - Clench your buttcheeks using your butt muscles. Do it several times a day, clench and hold. And when you're banging your ***** , just clench your buttcheeks from time to time, trust me dude. Oh yeah and breathe slowly from the belly.

 

You'll thank me later, cause I'm the master.

[hoppy28]

dont be ashamed.................it happens to the best of us.

 

when i was younger, say 16-18 i could last forever. i mean there were times in cars that i swear we tested the shocks better then the manufacturer of the shocks.

 

now im older i just cant seem to last forever. i dont know what it is.

what i have learned to do is if i do my thing to quick is to go back for seconds. then im able to last aslong as you want. ohwell such is life.

 

ive learned to also be a master with the tongue.

[noclobber]

Hi

 

u may want to try herbal supplements for better sexual function and libido. i have heard a lot of good things about Zupro. u can get it from http://www.zuproformen.com

 

but u before that u may want to research it well on the Internet in order to make an informed decision.

 

anybody here with some experience with Zupro or other herbal supplements?

[Jayhawks]

Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.

 

Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches). The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at -- their point of no return, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis, and you last longer.

Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.

 

Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. But many men fight it. They think they should stay in control by not breathing deeply and making the little love-moan sounds that go along with it. But when men work to control their breathing, they often sacrifice ejaculatory control. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their ejaculatory control.

 

Start with masturbation with a dry hand. By varying how you caress your penis, you can learn to stay highly aroused for quite a while without coming. When you feel yourself approaching your point of no return, simply back off a bit, stroke yourself more gently or not at all, and stay aroused without ejaculating. Then as you feel yourself getting a little distance from your point of no return, return to more vigorous self-stimulation. Repeat this several times over several sessions. Approach your point of no return, then back off. For most men, it doesn't take long to develop good ejaculatory control while alone.

 

Then move on to masturbation with a lubricated hand. Use saliva, vegetable oil, or a commercial sexual lubricant. For most people, lubricants increase the sensual intensity of erotic fondling. Follow the same program: Masturbate until you approach your point of no return, then back off. Repeat this several times over several sessions.

 

Once you have good control during masturbation, and appreciate whole-body sensuality, and feel comfortable breathing deeply during lovemaking, then you're ready for the couples program. Couple approach is called the "Stop-Start Technique." First, arrange "stop" and "start" signals with your lover, for example, a light pinch or tap, or a tug on an ear.

 

Then, your lover strokes your penis by hand as you lie still. When you approach your point of no return, give the "stop" signal. Your lover immediately stops stroking you and simply holds your penis gently, as you continue to breathe deeply and pays close attention to the sensations you're feeling. When you no longer feels close to ejaculation, gives the "start" signal, and your lover begins stroking you again. How many stops and starts should you do? A half-dozen over a 15-minute period works well for most couples. Do what feels comfortable for you.

 

With stop-start, the focus is on the man. He's the one learning the new skill. But don't forget the woman's sensual needs. As part of each practice session, she might guide your hand over her to show you what she likes.

 

Once you've gained good ejaculatory control with your lover's hand, try the same stop-start procedure with oral caresses. Again, you begin by lying still.

 

Once you've gained good control orally, feel free to start moving. You're making love again -- but now you have ejaculatory control.

[scobro]

Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.

 

Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches). The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at -- their point of no return, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis, and you last longer.

Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.

 

Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. But many men fight it. They think they should stay in control by not breathing deeply and making the little love-moan sounds that go along with it. But when men work to control their breathing, they often sacrifice ejaculatory control. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their ejaculatory control.

 

Start with masturbation with a dry hand. By varying how you caress your penis, you can learn to stay highly aroused for quite a while without coming. When you feel yourself approaching your point of no return, simply back off a bit, stroke yourself more gently or not at all, and stay aroused without ejaculating. Then as you feel yourself getting a little distance from your point of no return, return to more vigorous self-stimulation. Repeat this several times over several sessions. Approach your point of no return, then back off. For most men, it doesn't take long to develop good ejaculatory control while alone.

 

Then move on to masturbation with a lubricated hand. Use saliva, vegetable oil, or a commercial sexual lubricant. For most people, lubricants increase the sensual intensity of erotic fondling. Follow the same program: Masturbate until you approach your point of no return, then back off. Repeat this several times over several sessions.

 

Once you have good control during masturbation, and appreciate whole-body sensuality, and feel comfortable breathing deeply during lovemaking, then you're ready for the couples program. Couple approach is called the "Stop-Start Technique." First, arrange "stop" and "start" signals with your lover, for example, a light pinch or tap, or a tug on an ear.

 

Then, your lover strokes your penis by hand as you lie still. When you approach your point of no return, give the "stop" signal. Your lover immediately stops stroking you and simply holds your penis gently, as you continue to breathe deeply and pays close attention to the sensations you're feeling. When you no longer feels close to ejaculation, gives the "start" signal, and your lover begins stroking you again. How many stops and starts should you do? A half-dozen over a 15-minute period works well for most couples. Do what feels comfortable for you.

 

With stop-start, the focus is on the man. He's the one learning the new skill. But don't forget the woman's sensual needs. As part of each practice session, she might guide your hand over her to show you what she likes.

 

Once you've gained good ejaculatory control with your lover's hand, try the same stop-start procedure with oral caresses. Again, you begin by lying still.

 

Once you've gained good control orally, feel free to start moving. You're making love again -- but now you have ejaculatory control.

 

Wow what book is that from I have a book on ejaculation control and thats exactly what it talks about.Great advice.

[loony]

Wow what book is that from I have a book on ejaculation control and thats exactly what it talks about.Great advice.

It's copied from a website.