Does anyone wonder how some guys get away with so much?

[EthanBlack]

Would you like a little cheese with that whine? Lol. J/K. Cheer up because you have a lot going for you. Dump the self-entitled notion you carry around on your shoulder like a huge chip and pray, if nothing else, for exactly the kind of qualities you would like to find in a partner.

I dont mean to be so generic, but what about bruce lee-huh?! His wife was a total babe! You may not be a ninja of martial arts, but you said it yourself-that you can slice up that dance floor! What is worthy about a quitter?! Dont give up and do not dispair just yet. You need to let loose and have some genuine fun and take a break from the stress of finding perfection...there is hopefully something beautiful in all of Gods creatures so find the tiny beauty in the people you meet and when you can appreciate the small things, perhaps you will find the bigger beauty you are seeking from another. Good luck!

 

This is the best post in this rotten thread which I regret I started. Come on here to find some hope and all I get is a buncha guys (who probably also suck at dating) telling me why I suck. I kinda already knew I sucked. I mean, I admitted that. But I don't think I'm a ****ty person and I think I am someone's cup of tea out there. But yeah, I suck at marketing myself and I get discouraged easily. So sue me. Didn't know I had committed a crime.

Edited October 19, 2018 by EthanBlack

[ZA Dater]

Ultimately its down to choice. Either settle for something you don't want or keep trying for something you do want with the view of how probable it might be.

 

 

I think its possible to experience no success at dating but actually experience decent experiences. Why, because inevitable you can go on a good decent date, so what if its the only date, why would you want to go on a date with someone who isn't attractive? All those who say "lower your standards" I'd bet none of those people have ever had to.

 

 

My view is you cannot walk around being someone else, be who you are and if the dating market likes that, great, of not well then so be it. Beating yourself up emotionally about dating isn't worth it. I spent nearly a decade doing just that and it got me nowhere.

 

 

Its not even a look issue, I have had dates with all looks types, from model to severely obese, its really the person. I wont lie the models offered much more intellectually than the obese person because they were well travelled well informed people, whereas the obese lady taught at a school and generally had no general knowledge at all.

 

 

What you can probably use is the fact that many "beautiful" people aren't always treated that way and being "beautiful" has its own set of problems "does he like me for me or what I look like" and I can tell you this many models are very lonely people, yes they can get that great looking guy but many I have met struggle at dating as much as the average guy does the difference is they can get dates, whereas you and I battle to get dates.

 

 

I once went out with someone who made heads turn wherever we went, absolutely stunning yet she felt very self conscious because of that. Beautiful people don't have it as easy as many would think. BUT beautiful people do sometimes have massive self confidence and for me that's hugely appealing as I think it would be to any guy who battles with dating.

 

 

Perhaps though some can take solace in this, I know a fairly famous model, she dates guys based on personality not so much looks. It is possible but its rare.

[Chilli]

This is the best post in this rotten thread which I regret I started. Come on here to find some hope and all I get is a buncha guys (who probably also suck at dating) telling me why I suck. I kinda already knew I sucked. I mean, I admitted that. But I don't think I'm a ****ty person and I think I am someone's cup of tea out there. But yeah, I suck at marketing myself and I get discouraged easily. So sue me. Didn't know I had committed a crime.

 

 

Ya see all this is the thing, see it all through the forum with people struggling but it sums it up only it's sorta in reverse.

You don't have to be some master dater, l've never dated , not as such, in my life. here people tend to just wait and meet that somebody special.

And that's the way it's always worked for me.

even after l divorced.

 

But you gotta be free , in mind and in time, to be there , in just the right spot, wherever that will be, when she shows up , ya see.

And when you meet you won't have to do anything, she'll feel the same and it'll just grow all it's own , like a freight train.

But if your out wasting you time dating around with no bodies instead of just living life having fun and jhust being you, you'll miss her .

 

Now l know you guys there don't seem to do things that way or understand the thinking so l dunno , but if l were you or others struggling, that's what l'd do. Never fails.