jpat392 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 (edited) Hello, I'been seeing a woman I met online and we've hit it off really well so far but this is where I always screw up in dating so looking for some advice. And I'm not sure where this is going. TL/DR at the bottom *just as a note we live about an our away, I am 27 her 25) 2nd date 1 week ago - Both of us keep it fairly casual between. We don't talk to each other much outside of setting things up. - she comes to where I live and we go to couple places downtown, I hold her hand around town, give her a kiss dropping her off at her car. -We make plans to go to a hockey game for a third date 3rd Date - Last night -She starts initiating contact a lot more frequently, I always try to respond and respond with interest. -She cancels the hockey game because her hours change. She suggests I come over on Friday and do fall stuff, or if I didn't want to do that we could just go out to eat again. I accept going to her place. So... -This actually went well! But I'm not sure if I screwed up. So we cooked dinner, carved some pumpkins together and watch a scary movie. While watching the movie we were cuddled up pretty tight, the entire time. But we had lost track of time because we were having fun and all of a sudden it's like 1am, she actually even briefly fell asleep on my shoulder! -She wakes up and after the movie I make out with her pretty heavily, but that's all we did, I was totally unsure of how far she wanted to go, she really has presented herself like a woman who is pretty choosy about sex, and afterwards staying cuddled up for a bit she asks me if I'm driving home or staying here. I stay there for the night. -We are in her bed and kind of talking a little bit about nothing a give her a kiss, but she passes out really quickly. -In the morning she seemed idk disappointed? But kept thanking me for coming and said it was a good time, walked me to my car and kissed me and did a little bit of flirting. and when texting her that I got home fine she responded but it was totally flat. So TL/DR - After re-scheduling a different activity at her request I had a 3rd date at a woman's place that went (I think) great and was physical but not very much so outside of cuddling and making out. I spent the night, but we didn't do anything in bed as she fell asleep because of how late it was. She appeared to have had a lot of fun, but I'm not sure what she was expecting. How should I play this going forward? I really like her for who she is, but this is where I always screw up in dating. Do you guys think she is legitimately interested? And what should a 4th date be? Thanks for any input. Edited October 13, 2018 by jpat392 Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 Welcome to the Loveshack old chap. If she let you make out with her and go to her house and sleep in her bed, she is probably pretty pleased to be around you. I wouldn't put too much stock in a lady being somewhat tired at 1AM and you interpreting her texts as falling flat. I would say you've got to find out two big questions at this point - is she using sex as currency to lead you on, and the other, being what are both of you people's long term goals for your relationship. You certainly don't need to interview her about everything (that would kill your relationship, but maybe ask 2-3 questions next time round if she accepts a date). I would pick the most fun activity you can think of that you both enjoy, and get to know your date really really in depth. Link to post Share on other sites
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