Mojoman Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 I work with my ex, we're both law enforcement. When we split, we had said we'd both extend professional courtesy at work. The back story summary: - split up in early May 2018, lived together for 4 years. - Not much animosity but we had a couple arguments about money. Other than that I maintained no contact (she didn't contact me) - In July, I dated a couple women, not serious, and apparently she found out about that and I heard through the grape vine she was PO'd. - in late August, I requested to talk to her. I apologized for some things (I went though a major depressive episode for 2 years as a result of PTSD suffered at work which effectively killed our relationship). She said she accepted my apology though seemed a bit stand off'ish. - 4 days after the apology she said she thought about it and didn't want me to contact her again. That she was protecting herself and was setting boundaries. Said I hurt her bad and it was all unravelling. - I've left her alone since then other than incidental work contact. So, last week on two occasions, we were in the office alone. I was ignoring her essentially. Then she strikes up conversation. About work, but related to me returning to full duties (obviously she notices I'm working out again as I gained 25lbs). The second time she started joking about a how a prisoner we had looked like a celebrity. Now my eye brow is raised..... She's talking to me like nothing happened. To be honest, I'd probably get back with her if I could, on different terms of course (dating). I always thought of her as a very respectable woman and we were best friends through much of our relationship. Any other ex I would just shrug it off, but this one has me wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 (edited) I am a 30 year retired police Sgt / FOP rep. When you decide to pursue this co-worker / ex GF again who has told you no, you should post how it going so when can all feel sorry for you when you lose you job and want sympathy. You both work together. You are going to speak. That doesn’t mean she is interested romantically. Forget her. Edited October 14, 2018 by Simple Logic Link to post Share on other sites
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