zb19951995 Posted October 16, 2018 Share Posted October 16, 2018 Greetings LS, So I'm confused as hell and am trying to figure out what's going on and how to cope with this situation: So about eight months ago, my long term ex dumped me and more or less ghosted me out of the blue. The weekend before, she had still been head over heels for me and was even sending me location ideas for where we may have our wedding someday (we, especially her, had talked about getting married a lot but we weren't ever engaged). Fast forward one week, she dumps me saying she doesn't have the time for a relationship and we can try again in the future, only to ghost me a couple weeks later and start dating someone else, whom she's still with. In the limited contact I've had with her since then, all she would do is get extremely angry with me if she ever found out I still wasn't over her (usually via mutual friends, we have a ton and were extremely close friends for about three years before we started dating). Fast forward eight months and I found out through my boss that she applied to work in the same company and department I'm in now. Normally I'd write this off as happenstance (we're both 23 and recently out of college and were in the same major), but I know for a fact she knows I work here - one of the few good bits of contact I've had with her in the past eight months was her congratulating me on getting the job after she found out from another mutual friend of ours. So to that I ask: 1. What the heck? Why, if she's been doing everything she can to avoid me, is suddenly applying for work at the very same place I'm at? 2. How do I handle this? I don't want to step on her getting her career started, because I'd never want her to do the same to me but I'm still very much not over her and am also still pretty angry on how she just disregarded me and my emotions 3. Any other thoughts are appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 16, 2018 Share Posted October 16, 2018 I'd be pissed off.... What does your boss say to hiring her ? I wouldn't be as upset if she got onto the same company as department.. can you imagine if she flew up the ladder in a year or 2 you may work under her... Have you thought about asking her WTF ? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 16, 2018 Share Posted October 16, 2018 If your boss doesn't know you & she used to date, tell the boss. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 16, 2018 Share Posted October 16, 2018 (edited) Fast forward eight months and I found out through my boss that she applied to work in the same company and department I'm in now. Normally I'd write this off as happenstance (we're both 23 and recently out of college and were in the same major) Ok, it sounds weird, but what other jobs are available in your line of work in the area? If your company and dept. are a pretty good deal and are hiring then she would be stupid to miss the opportunity and not apply. As she dumped you and has now moved on, it is no skin off her nose I guess whether you work there or not. Edited October 16, 2018 by elaine567 fixed quote Link to post Share on other sites
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