how to leave

[theheartbreakkid]

i have been with my partner 9 years and recently it has come to pass he has been cheating on me with multiple women including someone who was my best friend.unfortunately this come to pass after he got me pregnant a second time.i had my suspicions but he convinced me i was crazy and seeing things and making a big deal out of huge coincidences, basically he gas lighted me i almost left him and he knew i was leaving so he asked me to have a 2nd child together, no way i thought he would be asking to have another baby i must be nuts. he knew i wanted to move on and have another child. so he did it to keep me. now i have come to realise due to a few subtle mistakes he made and some detective work on my part i got the proof i needed that he has been meeting her nearby saying he is going to the store, so hes either giving her his spare bank card or transferring money, then getting her to pick up the groceries, and meeting her around the corner to **** her while im left here assuming hes getting groceries for the family etc. i believe he has also been sneaking out at night/early mornings etc.i brought previous concerns up with his family and of course they don't believe me and have shunned me. i would basically need a photo or video of them caught together for them to believe they are that idiotic.so heres my dilemma, if i leave him, he starts taking our son and making threats and demanding him overnight, then it will be affecting child support, i then would not get enough to cover the roof over our heads right before im due for a new baby. he makes me sick, i cant sleep properly and im so stressed. at this point im feeling like my only option is to stay with him till i have this baby. he will not admit anything, just insist im crazy. honestly i just want him out of my life completely. i can see through his manipulation now, i can see all the red flags i was in denial about, and figured out a lot of the things hes been doing and how, i hate him with every inch of my soul. what would you do if you where in my position? he will never admit it, the proof i have is proof enough for me but not circumstantial enough to take him down completely. that i may just have to live with. i will try to get more concrete proof in the meantime.im just hurt and lost and feel so disgusted and violated and like an absolute fool, because he just makes me look crazier by the day while im trying to catch him out here

[Mr. Lucky]

theheartbreakkid, some punctuation and paragraphs will get you more responses. Hard to read a solid wall of text. Hope this helps:

 

i have been with my partner 9 years and recently it has come to pass he has been cheating on me with multiple women including someone who was my best friend.unfortunately this come to pass after he got me pregnant a second time.

 

i had my suspicions but he convinced me i was crazy and seeing things and making a big deal out of huge coincidences, basically he gas lighted me i almost left him and he knew i was leaving so he asked me to have a 2nd child together, no way i thought he would be asking to have another baby i must be nuts. he knew i wanted to move on and have another child. so he did it to keep me.

 

now i have come to realise due to a few subtle mistakes he made and some detective work on my part i got the proof i needed that he has been meeting her nearby saying he is going to the store, so hes either giving her his spare bank card or transferring money, then getting her to pick up the groceries, and meeting her around the corner to **** her while im left here assuming hes getting groceries for the family etc.

 

i believe he has also been sneaking out at night/early mornings etc.i brought previous concerns up with his family and of course they don't believe me and have shunned me. i would basically need a photo or video of them caught together for them to believe they are that idiotic.

 

so heres my dilemma, if i leave him, he starts taking our son and making threats and demanding him overnight, then it will be affecting child support, i then would not get enough to cover the roof over our heads right before im due for a new baby. he makes me sick, i cant sleep properly and im so stressed. at this point im feeling like my only option is to stay with him till i have this baby.

 

he will not admit anything, just insist im crazy. honestly i just want him out of my life completely. i can see through his manipulation now, i can see all the red flags i was in denial about, and figured out a lot of the things hes been doing and how, i hate him with every inch of my soul. what would you do if you where in my position?

 

he will never admit it, the proof i have is proof enough for me but not circumstantial enough to take him down completely. that i may just have to live with. i will try to get more concrete proof in the meantime.im just hurt and lost and feel so disgusted and violated and like an absolute fool, because he just makes me look crazier by the day while im trying to catch him out here

 

Since you said "partner", going to assume you're not married. I'd quit playing detective, talk to a lawyer about your rights (many offer a free consultation) and begin to look into the services needed to support your growing family.

 

Welcome to LoveShack, sorry this has happened to you...

 

Mr. Lucky

[misspalmy]

pack his bags with note on door Do not come back. its over