Together 6 years, just moved in, are we just friends now?

[Shygirl91]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years, we've just moved into our first home together. But ever since we moved in he doesn't bother to come near me... Sex has always been non existence in our relationship because he never wants it and always moans he's too tired, but he doesn't kiss me or cuddle me like he used to. There's just no romance in our relationship anymore is that normal?

 

Ive tried explaining to him how I feel and how it all makes me feel but he just shrugs it off and tells me that things change. We've only been living together since May, but I didn't think the happy honeymoon stage of finally being on our own in our own house would end on day 1.. I feel more like his friend who I share a house and a bed with than his girlfriend, am. I being stupid for feeling this way or is it normal???

[Mr. Lucky]

Sex has always been non existence in our relationship because he never wants it and always moans he's too tired, but he doesn't kiss me or cuddle me like he used to.

 

You moved in with someone you have a non-existent sex life with?

 

Don't see how you can complain about him, he's been consistent in his (non)actions. So this seems to be more about you - why take this big step with someone you're already unhappy with?

 

Mr. Lucky

[Chilli]

Sorry to say but if the attraction was already v low and it now being 6 yrs, gonna be tough.

But the trouble to now is also that the more you bring it up the more that turns into pressure which is an even moreso sure killer of any romance.

 

Personally l think you could try getting very creative in trying to rekindle his interest and also if your over weight and not looking as good as you use to , get back into shape.

Letting yourself go is also killer but it can make the world of difference if you get back into shape.

[guest569]

What does moving in together have to do with it? You said sex was always non existent right?

[Mysterio]

Sorry to say but if the attraction was already v low and it now being 6 yrs, gonna be tough.

But the trouble to now is also that the more you bring it up the more that turns into pressure which is an even moreso sure killer of any romance.

 

Personally l think you could try getting very creative in trying to rekindle his interest and also if your over weight and not looking as good as you use to , get back into shape.

Letting yourself go is also killer but it can make the world of difference if you get back into shape.

 

Adding to Chilli's point. You both should be getting into shape. Be it a Boxing class or Working out together and eating right. Make it a shared Adventure.

 

I almost think there is a timeline with most people. 6 yrs to live together is too slow. 1 yr is too quick as well.

 

2-3 yrs a couple should know if they are in it for the long haul.