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My life is a mess: Wife and relative Vegas Story

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Delete, I don't think this is rhe right way anymore..delete please

 

 

???? What happened? Why the change of heart? Did it go nuclear?

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???? What happened? Why the change of heart? Did it go nuclear?

 

No, but it's not getting much better. I just don't get it anymore.

My wife was never really close with this cousin of her's that is a problem in the jist of my story....now she talks to her quite a bit and I think this cousin likes the fact that I'm extremely pist about what went on when they went to Vegas. At a family function she called my wife over to 'gossip' and such. I don't talk to her and an disgusted by her. She knows im pist, and seems to want to provoke. It just something that makes me want to vent.....she doesn't get it. I want this to be over, but I never really feel like I can let this go for some reason.

 

That's all.

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Problem is, both these women know you don't like it when they get together - that is why they do it. They both want to hurt you. If you died today, both your wife and her cousin would spit on your corpse before they dumped you into the ground. Why do you stay in this relationship with this type of dynamic? Give both these evil women what they want. Divorce her and be free of these harpies forever. If you don't they will not stop what they are doing until you are dead...:( And they will blame you...:eek:

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Apparently the two cousin harpies think that they own you. As in "Oh that stupid man. If only he knew, but he never will. Tee hee hee."

 

Take control of the narrative. Reach deep down into your pants and find out where your nut-sack has been hiding.

 

If only for effect you could drop divorce papers on her. It's a long drawn-out process which can be stopped at any time. BUT... it sure as heck makes your point.

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You know, I wish it was all that easy guys.

It's always fun to play the "shoe on the other foot game" and I agree, she would not be ok if I did things like she did. Just depressed guys. Sorry, its pathetic, but I've got nowhere else to turn. I feel sooooooo disrespected, it's bad.

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You've got nowhere else to turn?

 

Man you are turning every which way except for the right way.

 

I shall now repeat myself:

 

"Take control of the narrative. Reach deep down into your pants and find out where your nut-sack has been hiding.

 

If only for effect you could drop divorce papers on her. It's a long drawn-out process which can be stopped at any time. BUT... it sure as heck makes your point."

 

Except maybe switch "could drop divorce papers" for "should drop divorce papers".

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Nothing new has happened...just more of the same.

My husband who feels so disrespected constantly calling the mother of his children a cheating whore in front of his kids.

 

For the record he never had a problem with my cousin before this trip. He feels like she took me away from him. Hs was not disrespected in anyway. He sent my cousin a message telling her that women are trash. So my cousin now has told other family members. The people she told which were women ignored him at a family function.

 

You guys really don't know either of us or what we've been through in the last 20+ years. So you cannot get the full picture.

 

I haven't even told my family an iota of what has been going on because I am embarrassed.

Our marriage is not healthy...I doubt it ever will be. There are 3 kids to think of. I know saying get a divorce is easy for you but it's not that easy. Especially when there is a disabled child involved who doesn't want to spend time alone with his dad because of the things he says and does to me. He does not feel safe with his own dad.

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Also, for the record my cousin did not cheat on her husband. She did something questionable but she did not cheat on her husband while we were in Vegas. So my husband was lying when he said I allowed her to cheat to try to turn the story in his favor.

 

He also expects me to ignore her at family functions because he hates her for taking me to Vegas. I've only hung out with her once since our trip that was nearly 2 years ago. He had no problem with it last year when I helped her with her new business venture. But now he hates her and said I need to choose her over him and I'm never allowed to talk to her again.

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Well I sure as **** do now! Nice way to treat your husband ! I know, you probably deserved it....i deserve it too.

You and "Barb" deserve each other. Glad you feel remorse. I sure as hell would.

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Problem is, both these women know you don't like it when they get together - that is why they do it. They both want to hurt you. If you died today, both your wife and her cousin would spit on your corpse before they dumped you into the ground. Why do you stay in this relationship with this type of dynamic? Give both these evil women what they want. Divorce her and be free of these harpies forever. If you don't they will not stop what they are doing until you are dead...:( And they will blame you...:eek:

 

That is s horrible thing to say to someone. Especially someone who is going through a hard time!

 

We have only been together at family functions a handful of times since our trip almost 2 years ago. We don't get together to piss him off.

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Well I sure as **** do now! Nice way to treat your husband ! I know, you probably deserved it....i deserve it too.

You and "Barb" deserve each other. Glad you feel remorse. I sure as hell would.

 

I hope your tantrum made you feel better!

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That is s horrible thing to say to someone. Especially someone who is going through a hard time!

 

We have only been together at family functions a handful of times since our trip almost 2 years ago. We don't get together to piss him off.

 

This guy might be on to something.

Then what do you call it when I've told you my thoughts and you don't care? She loves the drama, that's why she pushed all this onto you.....and you accepted. Never thought you would be like her. The fact that you know how much you've hurt me over this and you still want her as a best friend is really gross. And whispering in front of your family is even more appreciated.

I really felt the trust and love...

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You've got nowhere else to turn?

 

Man you are turning every which way except for the right way.

 

I shall now repeat myself:

 

"Take control of the narrative. Reach deep down into your pants and find out where your nut-sack has been hiding.

 

If only for effect you could drop divorce papers on her. It's a long drawn-out process which can be stopped at any time. BUT... it sure as heck makes your point."

 

Except maybe switch "could drop divorce papers" for "should drop divorce papers".

 

 

At this point a divorce is in order but not for the reasons you think. My therapist advised me to divorce him. However, there are three kids whose needs come before our own. He al Assad o, did not appreciate her advice and sent nasty messages on Facebook.

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Well as any rational person would know, getting advice to get a divorce by a personal therapist without meeting or hearing a word from the spouse with three kids involved is always best.

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This guy might be on to something.

Then what do you call it when I've told you my thoughts and you don't care? She loves the drama, that's why she pushed all this onto you.....and you accepted. Never thought you would be like her. The fact that you know how much you've hurt me over this and you still want her as a best friend is really gross. And whispering in front of your family is even more appreciated.

 

 

I did not hurt you because I did not cheat on you in Vegas!!!!!! I asked you to go for 10 years!! But we only do things you want when you want to do them!!! So yes, I went because you were never going to! That does not mean I went to cheat on you!! You are insecure and have been calling me a cheating whore since I got pregnant with our firstborn child! I should have left.you then like I had planned after the first time you put your hands on me!! But I was stupid and listened to your apologizes! I should have kept going!

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Also, for the record my cousin did not cheat on her husband. She did something questionable but she did not cheat on her husband while we were in Vegas. So my husband was lying when he said I allowed her to cheat to try to turn the story in his favor.

 

He also expects me to ignore her at family functions because he hates her for taking me to Vegas. I've only hung out with her once since our trip that was nearly 2 years ago. He had no problem with it last year when I helped her with her new business venture. But now he hates her and said I need to choose her over him and I'm never allowed to talk to her again.

 

I believe she did cheat and you are NOW covering for her...why? Because this thread is old, your husband made the claim a while back and you are only now disputing it. Had she not cheated you would have cleared it up right away, instead you claimed ignorance about her actions.

 

My wife also posts here (rarely nowadays) its important that you guys dont share things you haven't shared prior to posting it here.

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And following me on here to further cover your tracks, deflect onto me is great! Glad you knew my feelings on things well enough to not address them personaly, but knew they might be here...crazy!

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At this point a divorce is in order but not for the reasons you think. My therapist advised me to divorce him. However, there are three kids whose needs come before our own. He al Assad o, did not appreciate her advice and sent nasty messages on Facebook.

 

I'm guessing you see nothing wrong with your behavior....in my experience, when someone trys to blame thier spouse for as much as you are they are usually the bigger negative factor in the marriage. Simply because you dont see anything wrong so you need to change nothing.

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I believe she did cheat and you are NOW covering for her...why? Because this thread is old, your husband made the claim a while back and you are only now disputing it. Had she not cheated you would have cleared it up right away, instead you claimed ignorance about her actions.

 

My wife also posts here (rarely nowadays) its important that you guys dont share things you haven't shared prior to posting it here.

 

I did claim that she did not cheat in my first response. It doesn't matter anyway. She and her husband divorced a while ago. I'm defending her because he is lying and acting like he knew she was a cheater before we left for our trip. He had no problem with her before our trip.

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<snip> She then out of the blue, says her cousin had a guys number in her phone from the trip saved as a woman's name.....and they text all the time.

 

Then **** hits the fan. I have been out of my mind angry since this happened and very accusatory. She denies doing absolutely anything inappropriate....but I say why did you lie about your cousin. She had to have known what was going on. She has since accused me of cheating, being a horrible person and the like. I know her cousin at least cheated, she obviously didn't stop it, and now I'm sick. I obviously look at my wife a little differently now. I don't know what to do. She denies and accuses me.

 

I've really been trying to make the best of our marriage the last year....now it seems wrecked.

 

Cheating. This is an old cheater trick. Seen it used many times.

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And following me on here to further cover your tracks, deflect onto me is great! Glad you knew my feelings on things well enough to not address them personaly, but knew they might be here...crazy!

 

I didn't follow you here. You are the one who sent me the link to this thread and have told me multiple times you post here because you know I will see it just to piss me off!

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I'm guessing you see nothing wrong with your behavior....in my experience, when someone trys to blame thier spouse for as much as you are they are usually the bigger negative factor in the marriage. Simply because you dont see anything wrong so you need to change nothing.

 

The issue here is whether or not I cheated. I did not. So, no I did nothing wrong.

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