Jr567673 Posted October 20, 2018 Share Posted October 20, 2018 Hi everyone, I've been a lurker on here for quite some time and love everyone's honesty x Basically I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months and every time an argument happens he ends things, I chase, he comes back, rinse, repeat ? The arguments are worse when he drinks and a few weeks ago he became very aggressive towards me. He goads for a reaction and doesn't like it when he has one. Last week was the same and he goaded me again. I tried my best to ignore it but he knows from how my divorce affected me, counselling etc, he picks at this and says things like no wonder my husband left me and calls me nuts continually. I am not saying I am whiter than white here and I can say things that I don't mean in response to hurt. Anyway, he's ended things again stating that he loves me and will miss me and he's not sure whether he will regret this in the future but he is worried about things getting out of hand again and he cannot control what he does. I trust that he wouldn't ever hurt me physically however the verbal is just as bad. Following a conversation yesterday I told him if he was serious about never speaking to me again show me and block me. Reason being he says he wants it to end all the time and that he never wants to see or speak to me again only to change his mind a few days later. He has now blocked me at my request. I understand that the only person who can control what I do is me and it is pathetic that I've had to be blocked to get the message to sink in but this has happened quite a lot and I've always been the one to sort it out. I really want to move away from this relationship as it's no good for me but my gut is telling me it's not over. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 20, 2018 Share Posted October 20, 2018 I am not saying I am whiter than white here and I can say things that I don't mean in response to hurt. My experience has been the opposite - when a couple is fighting and things are said, you get a real sense of how they feel about each other. The delivery may be over the top, but in anger there is truth. Your BF doesn't see you as long-term material. Whether or not your agree with his assessment, you should accept it and move on. Good relationships don't come with this kind of drama... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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