Need Advice on Engaged MAN!

[missjewelz]

Why would you go to him about your HR problem? That sounds completely inappropriate since he isn't your boss and he's a higher up. What was the point of that? I think he was just being nice asking you to stay because he thought because you were hysterical you were going to quit your job and mess up your life.

 

I actually went to two of the partners, not just him. My HR was my boss, and she mistreated and mismanaged me, but was also causing other problems in the office. There are a few top partners and hes one of them, and I had to let them know what was going on. The conversation was strictly work related even though it was awkward and of a sensitive confidential nature. He was shocked to hear some of the things I was saying. I left the office in the Spring, and he was devastated over me leaving, he along with the others were not aware of the situation at this point. When I went back in the summer,some of my co-workers were aware of what was going on and encouraged me to talk to the partners. I worked upstairs near his office, so he was more familiar with me along with the other partner that I talked too. I knew they would believe me because they respected my work.

 

I came back to the office during the summer to help them out because they were short staffed, and my HR continued her horrible management style which affected me directly. Her management style and unprofessionalism had a lot to do with why I left in the first place and she got even worse when I went back to help the firm out. These reasons are why I wont go back to the office even when I was offered a higher position. They were under the impression that I was going back in a different position, but when I spoke with him I told him I would not because of the HR issues. The partners need to know whats going on when its HR related issues, because they are her boss, and if no one says anything, then nothing can be fixed or changed. I only came back temporarily to help them out, I wasnt going to stay, and he even asked me "so your not coming back permanently" and I said "no".

 

After I told him everything, he said he really appreciated the feedback, and I also spoke with another partner who's a female and she actually sent me a gift for helping them out, and said she was unaware of everything as well. So i'm pretty sure they had a meeting over what we discussed. Even after meeting with him and him knowing how angry I was and everything, he still told me 'he hoped to see me again in the office in the future', that was my last day there in the summertime. I had the option to go back, I was offered a month after this by my HR, her not knowing that I talked to them about her. I declined her consideration, and no I did not mess up my life. I have a better opportunity awaiting me starting in the new year.

Edited October 28, 2018 by missjewelz

[bathtub-row]

I don’t understand all this debate about whether the guy was attracted to OP or not. She says he was, she was there, I think it’s safe to say he was attracted to her.

 

OP, I think that’s a good idea not to contact him. As you said, the two of you may run into one another somewhere down the road. You never know.

[missjewelz]

I don’t understand all this debate about whether the guy was attracted to OP or not. She says he was, she was there, I think it’s safe to say he was attracted to her.

 

OP, I think that’s a good idea not to contact him. As you said, the two of you may run into one another somewhere down the road. You never know.

 

exactly, I dont care what anyone says. The attraction was definitely there, and mutual on both ends. The issue I was having was the feeling of major regret because I did nothing about it, and I was pondering on whether or not to contact him, but I've come to the conclusion I probably wont. If we both end up single in the future, then he could try to find a way to contact me somehow even though it might be hard. His information is public so its easier for me to contact him obviously but I wont.