snowcones Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 (edited) How do men get dates then? Edited October 21, 2018 by snowcones Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 They do it online or wait for a woman to message them. I see a lot of women being brought here from foreign countries in the future. It's already happening. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SaintJonesy Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I don't think most men are. I've only ever been rejected and I'm not afraid to approach women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeful30 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Forget the men! At least they have the option to chase. What about us ladies who have nothing to do on a saturday night Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Put in an ad for $%^&* and giggles....Guy looking for lady who has nothing to do on Saturday night. Dinner could be in the cards for YOU. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 It's fluff.....play along and have fun with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Put in an ad Yeah, in your local newspaper's personals section. That's how it's done these days right? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Craigslist or of some other yes. You'd be surprised how many still place ads in a newspaper. I have one that comes free to my door...a slowly dying media. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Show up at social events and let things happen organically. What I've noticed is if a woman likes a guy, she can and will manipulate interaction so a date occurs even if the man doesn't do the 'Will you have dinner/go out on a date with me?' Still it's not going to happen if one is sitting at home banging on a keyboard. Gotta get out there. This presumes average good guy, not a room stopper women constantly chase after. Those guys won't be reading this forum. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 You'd be surprised how many still place ads in a newspaper. Is that so? Hmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Forget the men! At least they have the option to chase. What about us ladies who have nothing to do on a saturday night Only if I could turn back the clock...never knew life could turn out this way Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I guess if you're too scared to approach a woman, you don't deserve to date one in the first place. Survival of the fittest—you're doing biology's work for it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I hate this kind of statements. All men and women are different. Yes. but I think we are talking about the generality of the topic. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Online which will soon be the only legal way for men and women to meet. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Confident men aren't afraid to approach women... I've been doing it all of my life. Occasionally I get rejected, but it doesn't bother me. I can say 99.9% of the women that did reject me did in a polite way. I can only think of a handful of times when a woman was rude when I approached her. I met my current long term girlfriend in an apartment complex pool. I swam up to her, chit chatted a bit and asked her out for a drink. Many years ago, I tried on-line dating for a very brief period of time, I didn't like it and went back to "real life". In time, a confident man will approach you... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Online which will soon be the only legal way for men and women to meet. In ten years virtual reality will ‘revolutionize’ the way humans interact. It’s a scary thought. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Dr. Drew was on Wendy Williams last week. He said he gets these Millennial guys coming to him (he's a psychiatrist) saying they've been washing some woman's car or cleaning her carpet for three years and they feel it's time she "stepped up and did her part" and became their girlfriend. Dr. Drew was incredulous over this attitude and said he'd tell them, "Are you kidding? What you were doing is just stalking behavior." His point being that some people don't have any social skills or understand the first thing about dating but have entitlement and just think they will obligate a woman to them by doing favors in eventual return for sex. This certainly doesn't apply to all, but it's true that not having other communication besides internet is crippling people socially. As with anything, balance is key. If you are living an internet life, you better get out there and do some physical things and social things while you're young before it's too late or what you're future marriage will be like is sexting in separate rooms of the same house and being afraid to do it for real. Buying a woman from another country, as someone brought up, isn't the solution to anything unless you truly just want paid-for sex, but don't assume a bride for hire will be inexpensive over the long run. After all, that's all she's there for, so for her to keep putting out, you'll have to keep buying her what she wants. Also doesn't mean she'll cook and do housework like a pro, or at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 Men don't need to approach women anymore. I used to do it all the time but I pretty much gave up on it. Good luck even finding a girl on her own that either A, isn't paranoid about men talking to her in the first place, or B doesn't have her face permanently attached to her phone. Internet is where it's at these days. Social media to be exact. Meet a woman out anywhere and you wanna add her to social media. When you need a date, hit up some girl on your FB. That's what I have been doing. So “Hey it was nice talking to you, can I add you on Facebook?” And you go from there? Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowcones Posted October 21, 2018 Author Share Posted October 21, 2018 Yes, I am a woman and I am asking the men how they get dates. Current knowledge is much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 21, 2018 Share Posted October 21, 2018 I have been married for 12 years so that is how I got a date but things have changed dramatically since then. If I were single today I would just use online. Approach the wrong woman and you some meme on social media. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Yes, I am a woman and I am asking the men how they get dates. Current knowledge is much appreciated. It seems I've met quite a few women at my local used bookstore. I haven't followed through as I am in a long term relationship. Are there any bookstores in your area?? You can easily strike up a conversation with a guy you find attractive. Hold up a book and ask him if he has read it?? Ask his favorite author?? Tell him your favorite author and then go have a cup of coffee... Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Online which will soon be the only legal way for men and women to meet. I don't understand this mentality at all. We're definitely living through a shift in men-women interactions, but this idea that you can't even ask a girl out anymore without real concern about being "me too'ed" doesn't have any consistent basis in reality. Yeah, you're going to get the occasional overreaction, but as someone who's "out there" in the dating scene, the only real change I've seen is that guys are more likely to get called out on conduct that was suspect to begin with. For instance, there was a big hooplah a couple weeks ago at the bar I frequent that later blew up on social media. A girl I know through a friend was being pursued by another guy who knows the owner. He allegedly was getting too handsy, despite her requests for him to stop, and when she finally made a bit of a scene about it, the owner came over and kicked HER out. A couple years ago, that's probably as far as things go, and it just becomes an angry story she shares with her friends. Instead, she took to social media to detail the account and now the bar has gotten some bad press because the owner, who is good friends with the man, did nothing to stop the incident. I enjoy frequenting that place, but even I think it's a good thing that the current social climate has made women feel more comfortable to do something about these incidents rather than grin and bear it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Says who ? l was divorced after 20yrs , and did what l always did , exactly what l wanna do, all worked out just dandy. Ya spending too much time on the internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowcones Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 I never mentioned anything about #metoo. I have noticed that men approach less long before that even started, so we can leave that out of it. I am only wondering how they get dates then. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 I never mentioned anything about #metoo. I have noticed that men approach less long before that even started, so we can leave that out of it. I am only wondering how they get dates then. IME, Women have gotten way more aggressive in pursuit of men than they were in the past....I guess those women have decided not to wait on the sidelines for a guy to take the initiative, so they get it going... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
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