PRW Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Now they are living together and both miserable, her because he games too much, him because she is no longer loving and nags him. It wouldn't be that hard for most women to figure out if a guy is this self absorbed before she ever got to this point. This symptom seen with the video game thing is indicative of other things going on with the guy that would have been visible to anyone paying attention. What she did was pretty stupid too. How in the world do you know someone well enough to be "in love" with them to the point that you would move that far to live there to be with them,...yet have no clue what their daily habits are. On his side, how in the world could he not know her well enough ahead of time to know that him playing video games day and night was going to be a problem. There's all kind of screwed up things going on here,...failing to "confess" to playing video games isn't it. Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 It wouldn't be that hard for most women to figure out if a guy is this self absorbed before she ever got to this point. This symptom seen with the video game thing is indicative of other things going on with the guy that would have been visible to anyone paying attention. What she did was pretty stupid too. How in the world do you know someone well enough to be "in love" with them to the point that you would move that far to live there to be with them,...yet have no clue what their daily habits are. On his side, how in the world could he not know her well enough ahead of time to know that him playing video games day and night was going to be a problem. There's all kind of screwed up things going on here,...failing to "confess" to playing video games isn't it. They knew each other from high school but did not date then. Then she moved to another state and some years later, he contacted her through Facebook and they embarked on a long-distance romance. She visited him a few times and they fell in love through their talks. She said he presented himself as a active and healthy person, then after she moved in with him, the truth started slowly coming out. She had no idea that he was an avid gamer because he never told her. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 (edited) I stand by my point. Playing video games is not a condition to be cured of, it doesn't need a 12 step group, it is not a disease. That is just nonsense. She needs to be more worried about moving in with a guy that wants to be Couch Potato Peter Pan and not "grow up" rather than if he plays a video game or not. Actually you are wrong.... https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/features/video-game-addiction-no-fun#1 Did you know that the Fortnite creators hired addiction specialists to make their game more addictive and that the addiction to Fortnight is being compared to the addiction to Heroin. This is all off topic, you seem to be defending a point that gaming isn't bad and as a parent myself I can tell you it is.. to watch the effect on children or my son's friends is just eye opening. But it all comes down to everything in moderation....gaming in moderation is entertainment... Edited October 25, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 Addictive people will get addicted to anything. But gaming is addictive because it, too, is an escape where you are always going to get rewarded in the end and get that little boost. So the problem is when you stop living real life in order to escape into a fake world where you get rewarded for hitting something with your finger over and over and can pretend to be someone you're not and project yourself into the characters and feel more powerful. The complaints you see on LS are that the bf doesn't pay any attention to them or take care of anything, and this is typical of addiction. Someone recently on here said the bf abused the dog for interrupting. I've seen one of my relatives neglect their pets and neglect their work and lose clients and not pay bills and nearly get the house repossessed because living the imaginary life and pretending to be an Empress was so much better than the solitary life they had already chosen. Link to post Share on other sites
sabaton Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 Actually you are wrong.... https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/features/video-game-addiction-no-fun#1 Did you know that the Fortnite creators hired addiction specialists to make their game more addictive and that the addiction to Fortnight is being compared to the addiction to Heroin. This is all off topic, you seem to be defending a point that gaming isn't bad and as a parent myself I can tell you it is.. to watch the effect on children or my son's friends is just eye opening. But it all comes down to everything in moderation....gaming in moderation is entertainment... I'll never understand why fathers allow their kids to play video games instead of taking them out to the gym, the beach, and teaching them how to shoot guns, get them in a boxing club, and teaching them how to hunt and fish. What social skills or real life skills video games teach? Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah_Smiles Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 No, they are dateable, but if they hole up for days playing, and obsessing, you wouldn't be able to go out on a date with them, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 Many gamers are happily married. Many aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 What social skills or real life skills video games teach?Within my circle of friends, several rather successful IT careers started with video games, including mine. My first job was beta-testing, which paid more than the fast food and retail jobs available to me. It also looked much better on college applications and resumes. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Many gamers are happily married. Many aren't. Or they are married to people who like games as well. My wife was home today so she already played RDR 2 and I told her not to spoil anything for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I think someone else mentioned it and its probably true... Its probably best that if you are out there trying to meet someone and you aren't 14 years old, its best to not list that you are a "gamer"...If you then get asked, you can say you enjoy your games once in a while, but the word "gamer" then can bring up the negative stereotypes that have already been mentioned... Its no different for other types of activities...I consider myself a serious workout guy, but I have never said that to anyone, nor would I say I am a "gym rat" or "meathead" to someone that I would potentially want to enter a relationship with...Its unnecessary and makes no sense, really...If asked, I say that I enjoy exercise and like weight training...That's it, really... But again...Just like the workout analogy....If it occupies so much of your life that it becomes a detriment, then others are going to see it as a negative...Moderation is the key... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 When you mention "gamer" the first image that pops into someone's head is a guy that is out of shape, on a dirty old couch, dressed in dirty sweats, bag of Doritos on the side, and getting upset at 2 AM because he didn't get high score or whatever .... Of course people are all different, but it is what it is, and while I am not a woman it probably would be a big turnoff if I was... TFY You forgot to mention the multiple computer monitors, three at minimum. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Okay, it's time I talk about this. I consider myself a gamer. I have been playing video games for more than 25 years. I have my moments of going through breaks and not being as into them, but never to a point where I completely stop gaming. I have my moments where I would spend hours on end playing a game. However, lately I have been focused on school, writing, and photography. I'll play a game from time to time, and then I will get back into it more to the point where I would do it on a daily basis. I had a discussion about this with a friend of mine who was talking to a girl once. It seemed that the two got along, until the girl had something about how she doesn't like gamers, and my friend just told her "Have a nice day, you'll find someone who suits your interests." He had a good way of walking away, I will say that. Also, I came across a profile on a dating site and this girl noted game is a deal-breaker for her. I have talked to her, but mentioned nothing of gaming. I had talked with friends of mine and they said that calling it a deal-breaker is kind of pushing it and that maybe I should try talking through it to try to make something work. My friends are female, by the way. However, I read this blog post that made me think a bit. Now, I can understand that there are women out there who have felt neglected by gamers who do it nonstop and make their girlfriends feel like afterthoughts. However, there are gamers, like myself, who know their limits. Hell, I can say that I have good hygiene because I shower every day and try to dress decently. I know some of you people would say that I would be better suited to date someone similar interests. Right, I cannot argue with that, and even if I meet someone who doesn't share some of my interests, I am usually respectful towards that. Sure, you have the addicts out there, but then you also have the ones who can play games in limited doses. Where do you stand on this? If you define yourself based on your hobby then it's safe to assume that you might need more balance in your life. A hobby like that comes with a lifestyle, much like a job does. Take a nurse, or a doctor, for example. He or she work odd hours, sometimes 30 hour shifts, are on call most days and overall have a schedule that some mind find hard to keep up with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author E-Squared Posted October 28, 2018 Author Share Posted October 28, 2018 I'll never understand why fathers allow their kids to play video games instead of taking them out to the gym, the beach, and teaching them how to shoot guns, get them in a boxing club, and teaching them how to hunt and fish. What social skills or real life skills video games teach? Really, do you have to involve weaponry and nature? Can there be other hobbies that kids can do that don't involve Danger, like Reading, Writing, drawing, etc? I get where you're coming from, but some fathers don't fish and hunt. On a personal note, I remember how my parents told me that I should playlist games, but this is when I was younger and didn't really want to be more active. I never showed interest in sports, but I will tell you that there were moments when I wasn't as interested in playing video games than before. I noted that in the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 I'm thinking about buying a second PS4 so my wife and I don't have to argue about how gets to play RDR2. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted October 29, 2018 Share Posted October 29, 2018 What social skills or real life skills video games teach? Depending on the game, anywhere from none to a great many. Problem solving, multitasking, time-management, resource management, strategic planning, and for team games like WoW it can include leadership, delegation, people management, co-ordination and so forth. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 29, 2018 Share Posted October 29, 2018 RDR2 is absolutely phenomenal. I used to play World of Warcraft with an ex of mine years ago. We were really happy in those days. A couple that games together, stays together! It's almost impossible to find a girl in my age bracket that can even play a video game though. I had a girl at my house the other day trying to play my PS4 and that was a trainwreck. It is seriously the most immersive open world game I have ever played. It really is like playing a movie. For anybody that doubts games can be art look at some videos of this on youtube. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted October 29, 2018 Share Posted October 29, 2018 on topic posts please, thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author E-Squared Posted November 7, 2018 Author Share Posted November 7, 2018 I wonder this. Have any ladies on here ever dumped a guy because he devoted more time to playing a game than spending time with you? Link to post Share on other sites
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