Amethyst68 Posted November 7, 2018 Share Posted November 7, 2018 Honestly? I'd suspect when he visited her he blocked your account from her social media so she doesn't see your posts. BTW, I mentioned it earlier but you never confirmed if you live in a fault or no fault country/state? If it's a 'fault' state do you realise what you are by posting in social media? Link to post Share on other sites
Author murphyross Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 I talked him and told him how i felt. He brought me to his family’s house and introduced me to them. I am so happy, that’s progress. Link to post Share on other sites
Author murphyross Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 How old is he and how old are you? We are in our thirties Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 I talked to him about how i felt. he brought me to his family’s house and introduced me to them. I am so happy, that is progress. It's not one bit of progress until he gets a divorce - finalized. Link to post Share on other sites
BitterSweetz Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 This is a common story (VERY common) in a few facebook groups I am in. I read a few red flags on the first page of posts and this last page. Let me go through the rest of the posts... doesn't look good though. Link to post Share on other sites
BitterSweetz Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 i found out that he is making a fake account and is trying to follow his wife in social media... We had a huge fight about this. He tried to deny following her ... found the evidence? It is called stalking, and it is typical behavior if my hunch is correct Link to post Share on other sites
BitterSweetz Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 first of all, OP I am in my 30's, we do not have much time to be wasted!! all the red flags point to one thing i was hoping it not to seem like... he is hiding you, keeping you a secret he is showering you with love, gifts, and financial security. he doesn't want to marry you he does not want to divorce his wife his wife blocked him he made another account to stalk her he does not want anyone who knows wife or mutual friends to see you together he has been lying to you he is codependant on his parents girl, he sounds like he has an anti-social personality disorder or sorts they don't have relationships, they have supply. people they use for things they need or want whether physical things or emotional needs, ego strokes etc.... look it up, BPD, NPD are two most popular personality disorders. I have been in 5 abusive relationships out of the 6 relationships i was in. I have been educating myself since 2015 after i found what gas lighting was it lead me on a rabbit trail of information. Now i see red flags everywhere. maybe I am wrong, maybe he had a mid life crisis? I fell in love with a married man once, i had empathy for her because i had been cheated on before. The most him n i did was kiss n have feel up sessions (very heated) but that is as far as it got. His wife got the help she needed n she was back to her old self. I miss him but i knew i wouldnt be able to forgive myself for breaking her heart. it don't sound good, best to tell him you need a break and to get your head set straight <3 best of luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author murphyross Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 My friend told me that i am a magnet of npd men. We argued when she told me that i have bpd tendencies and that me n my MM are in a codependent relationship. He did not hide me anymore, he already brought me to his family’s house and introduced me to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author murphyross Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 I doubt he has npd though. His family said he was a good guy before. Straight as an arrow. They noticed the changes when he became buff and his business became successful. He started experiencing things he missed out on before like trhe partying, buying expensive stuff and being very critical of his appearance. Cheated with his longtime wife to be with me because he feels he deserves better. But is that bad? Maybe he just got bored of the person he was before. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 You keep on ignoring my question if the BS cab divorce your MM on the grounds of adultery - why? Is it because you keep helping her by posting proof on social media? Is that the real reason you post there? Even though it may cost MM more money? Link to post Share on other sites
Author murphyross Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 It is just a message to my friends and family that this MM chose me. We are happy, what we have is real, we are going public even though he did not make any moves to file for divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 I doubt he has npd though. His family said he was a good guy before. Straight as an arrow. They noticed the changes when he became buff and his business became successful. He started experiencing things he missed out on before like trhe partying, buying expensive stuff and being very critical of his appearance. Cheated with his longtime wife to be with me because he feels he deserves better. But is that bad? Maybe he just got bored of the person he was before. How long do you really think you can keep a man like that? He certainly sounds like he has some narcissistic tendencies... Fine, go along for the ride if it makes you happy atm, but at 30+ I feel you are wasting your time if you are looking for a proper relationship. You, I guess are what they call "the bridge", a variant on the rebound, a bridge is the woman who rescues him from a bad marriage, but once he gets his head straight and his life in order again, he dumps the bridge and starts either playing the field with his new found confidence or he starts looking for someone who is true wife material. The bridge only provides safe passage to his new life. be careful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 He certainly sounds like he has some narcissistic tendencies... I would say that he is not the only one... OP, I will end by saying simply - as you move through life, you will be presented with various opportunities and you will be required to make many decisions. The decisions you make will determine the quality of your life. Choose wisely. The good people of this board have been unanimous in telling you that this is not a good choice. Do with that what you will, the decision is yours. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BTDT2012 Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 Did he introduce you as his girlfriend? His fiance? His future wife? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 Did he introduce you as his girlfriend? His fiance? His future wife? His friend? His side-chick? His Friday night girl? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted November 12, 2018 Share Posted November 12, 2018 We are in our thirties You could be waiting for him to divorce for ten or twenty more years. Are you ok with that? Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted November 12, 2018 Share Posted November 12, 2018 If he’s trying to follow his ex, then that means he wants to be with her. I think you know what to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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