Ending a friendship because it hurts too much ?

[Mabu8128]

Long story short I have been getting a lot of mixed signals from my crush who has a boyfriend. She acts like we are dating but our official title is "really good friends".

 

I can not do this anymore, its not fair to her, its not fair to her BF and its not fair to me. I want to break contact with her for good because it hurts to much ti pretend to just be her friend.

 

Should I just become busy and fade away or should I tell her why I am leaving?

 

Its not to get into her pants, I just seem to care way to much about her and want to be with her everyday and have a relationship but that spot is taken and it kills me so that shows me the friendship on my end can not be genuine and care enough to walk away instead of a friend who when hears one day they break up (if they do) would be happy....its not fair on both parties.

[CC12]

that spot is taken and it kills me so that shows me the friendship on my end can not be genuine

 

a friend who when hears one day they break up (if they do) would be happy....its not fair on both parties.

 

I think your intuition here is very good. I agree with you on the points above.

 

I think you should tell her why you're leaving. It's better for her to know why, instead of leaving her wondering what she may have done wrong to drive you away.

 

Be prepared for the possibility that she'll try to convince you that you two can stay friends. You can't be friends, at least not right now. Maybe in the far, far distant future, but I'd say there's only a small chance of that, so try not to give her false hope. Don't say, "Let's talk again in a week/month/year/whatever." Just say, "No hard feelings, maybe someday we'll talk again, but for now, goodbye." And then it will probably be a good idea to block her on social media. Clean break.

[preraph]

She's just not interested in you that way and never will be, so you should break the friendship off so you can move forward and not focus on her. You should tell her you can't be "just friends" because you need to move on and can't do that if she's around.

 

I mean, alternatively, you can fade away, but she may or may not take the hint and just keep you wondering: I haven't contacted her in a month but she keeps contacting me. Do you think this means she is interested in something more now. She's not and that would just keep you hoping in your weak moments.

 

I know this is hard, but it's easier if you make a clean break so you can move on. I only hope she cooperates. You should take yourself off all her social media and block her from yours so you're not doing things to get attention from her.