MsOliviaBenson Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 I’ve been seeing a married man for a little over a month, and I’m not sure how to deal with things. I go from feeling like this is exactly where I should be, to feeling guilty for being here. I don’t expect, nor want him to leave his marriage for me. I want to enjoy the time we have, but I also need to keep it in perspective. For anyone who has been in it long-term, are my feelings normal? Did anyone else feel like this? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
healingliteratura Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Welcome Ms Olivia, Speaking from experience, having been in a relationship with an MM for almost a year, I still feel the way you described. Feeling like I am in the right place, in the right relationship, but guilty for the circumstances of the arrangement. I know the reason that I feel guilt is because in this affair, my actions are not aligning with my values. For that reason, it can feel like a constant struggle. But to give advice, I think we need a little more information. You have said you do not want, nor expect him to leave his marriage, yet are struggling to keep things in perspective. Can you clarify what you are looking for with this MM? Thank you for your reply. Link to post Share on other sites
ABernie Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 For me, I was able to compartmentalize it. IDK how I did, b/c I find it very difficult to do in other situations. Not to say that I didn't end it a few times, b/c I felt the guilt. Maybe it was more about living in the here and now. Link to post Share on other sites
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