Draft message text to send ex?

[Zahara]

Quick update:

 

I did end up texting him but it was something a lot shorter and simple. Basically said 'I'd love to catch up in the next few weeks if you're free. Let me know'

And he ended up replying saying hey yeah next week some time

 

Thank you to those who gave me constructive criticism - that initial message that I drafted was a little heavy and I see that and i think that's why I was doubting it - I felt a lot more comfortable sending something more straight forward.

 

Wish me luck with the meet up ?

 

I think you’re setting yourself up for more pain. There is no possible way that within 6 weeks you’ve healed and reached a level of indifference whereby you are able to manage a friendship with him. You reached out because you can’t let go and you’re hopeful that maybe a meeting may change his mind.

 

Keep you expectations low and be prepared to face the possibility of more pain. It’s apparent that you’re still very emotionally affected, while he is likely in a very different place.

[BaileyB]

Wish me luck with the meet up

 

And your purpose with this meet up is what exactly?

 

You reached out because you can’t let go and you’re hopeful that maybe a meeting may change his mind.

 

I think your hopes are going to be dashed, again... I'm sorry. You really should try to let this go.

[d0nnivain]

I'm going to go against the grain here.

 

You already sent the text. He responded & now you have this meet up.

 

First you have to do more listening the talking. Let him put his cards on the table first. Then you respond. You do not start any discussions about the status of your relationship / friendship / break up. See what he has to say.

 

The last thing you need is to have gushed about how supportive you are willing to be, how you want him in your life etc only to have him reply that he needs you to knock it off & that he knows you continuing to reach out when he doesn't want you to only hurts you.

 

You say you want to be friends for now. What does that mean? What does that look like? Are you going to go out & be his wing(wo)man while he tries to pick up other women? Are you going to listen when some new girl breaks his heart or rings his bell? Do you not understand that when either of you gets a new SO the 1st thing that person is going to want is for the EX to be long gone. Post break up friendships are a farce. The best you can hope for is peaceful coexistence where no one causes a scene & you can make banal small talk if you unexpectedly run into each other in public.

[ExpatInItaly]

What do you hope to come from this meet-up?

[Million.to.1]

If there was one of those "eating popcorn" emojis here, I would post that.

 

 

All the best for your meet up though, really.