CantDecide... Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 Hye guys so i go a week with NC and my ex decided to call me. Just to give a little backround summary, we broke up in the end of june, but continued to be friends throughout summer, friennds as in hang out like everyday and talk, but just not hook up. I basically wanted her back like crazy so i thought it would work. After a while i was relizing that were not gonan get back and none of what we were doing is healthy. Last friday we got into a huge fight over something, and then hung up all pissed, she calls me next night and im still pissed, so i give her the cold shoulder and she takes the hint and gets off the phone. we dont speak all week, i figured now was a better time then ever to start NC, becasue i just want to move on and forget this, and maybe be friends in the future. But last night im minding my own business and she calls, and wants to know why i havent called her all week, and how we went from like best friends to not speaking. i told her its not healthy for us to be doing things like were a couple if were not, and that i need to heal b4 we can be friends. And then i said u know i cant be ur friend when i still want to be with you, and u hook up with a guy everytime ur drunk, i asked her how do u think i felt. and she then said yea well u have no idea what kinda week ive had, and i said what could possibly top my summer of pain, and she tells me how everywere in school reminds her of me, (im not in same school anymore i graduated), and then shes like and no i dont wanan be back together, blah blah blah. then starts crying and it gets dramtic. she then says how its always on my terms, when i wanna be friends we are, when i dont wanan be friends were not, and then she goes you know how u said to me u feel like you lost your best friend, well i feel like i just lost mine all over again to. then tells me well im not gonan call you anymore, friends just isnt worth it anymore. uhhh i was doing so great untill she called me, talking to new girls, trying to move on. my parents are convinved shell be calling me eventually, but i dunno im not prepaired for it, im just gonan try and live my life, but still i wish she handt called. what do u guys think, im doing ok, you think shell call me again, what do u think will happen? or just any advice you can give Link to post Share on other sites
samski3409 Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 it sounds to me like you already know what you have to do. you have to move on and get some space between you and that situation. stick with the N/C and i promise you things will be better for you in the long run.Now, this might be tough to think about doing,but you know you have to do it. it's better if you start the healing process now instead of drawing this out any further and only get more hurt in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CantDecide... Posted September 10, 2005 Author Share Posted September 10, 2005 yea i know, like its wierd i want to call her but i dont at the same time. i know it will do nothing except hurt me, becasue iwas great untill she called. i gues if its ment to be it will be. i dont plan on calling her, my mind is being stronger then my heart. it just sucks, but im gonan think positively i have a date tomorow witha girl, who ive been clicking really well with sooo. But i still have this wierd feeling if things work well with this new girl, that my ex is gonan conviently call me right as im moving on, it happens everytime. Link to post Share on other sites
kscholze Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 we should start a club. all the same situations. just when we move on they call Link to post Share on other sites
Author CantDecide... Posted September 10, 2005 Author Share Posted September 10, 2005 yea seriosly, like im not shell call but like, im afraid if she does, i hope i can be strong if she does. becasue ive relized if we were to ever get back together at this point there will be seriosu resentment issues, but you know who knows what will happen. im not planning on her calling but i have this feeling she will grrrr Link to post Share on other sites
samski3409 Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 yeah,really! f*ck-um!! don't let them have that power over you anymore! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CantDecide... Posted September 10, 2005 Author Share Posted September 10, 2005 haha yea thats what i keep teeling myself. i just dont understand how i was absolutley fine all week, like i wasnt missing her, i didnt evan wanan call her, i wasnt thinking about her with other guys, i wasnt wondering what she was doing, and as soon as shecalls me it changes, all my feelings, like right now im sitting in my room thinking about her with a nother guy, thinking about what shes doing, hoping shes safe. uhhh i wish she hadnt called Link to post Share on other sites
kscholze Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 always happens when they call. I dont know why they feel the need to call. I feel the same way you do when my ex calls me, (which will not happen anymore as I have a new #). I just resent her more each time she calls, but I still love her and want to be with her. and that makes no sense Link to post Share on other sites
Author CantDecide... Posted September 10, 2005 Author Share Posted September 10, 2005 yea i hear ya man, well she called becasue she wanted "closure" she said i just didnt knwo why we stopped talking, one minute were best friends and the next were not evan speaking, you know i do understandm she would wanan know. and who knows maybe she wont call me for a while, maybe she will. but i do know that in time i really want to be friends with her, just not now and i told her that, and shes like in time we wont evan know eachother then, why should we bother, then goes off saying u know u its always ur terms, shes like well what if i wanan be friends now huh huh and ur saying no, what if i justpushed you so ud say yes, and basically tried to make me feel like the bad guy. but you know what if she does relize she loves me and wants me she knows right were to find me Link to post Share on other sites
kscholze Posted September 10, 2005 Share Posted September 10, 2005 exxactly right. she knows you and what you need. She will find you if she wants to... Link to post Share on other sites
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