Unhappy_Nerd Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 I had an interesting email exchange with the Ex-wife yesterday. We've finally wrapped up the last of our financial matters. The divorce was final in June, and everything stipulated is done. House is sold, debts are in the right hands, etc. The email was just confirming that everything was completed, and all documents were signed. It was also something of an exchange of goodbyes... Anyway, she let me know that she's getting married again. lol. Evidently she started seeing someone shortly after we separated, and got engaged in September. She had been concealing it because she was afraid it would upset me. But I'm honestly happy she's moved on, considering she was hysterical and threatening suicide when this all started in January. Hopefully she's not moving too fast, but really, her future relationships are none of my business. Anyway, just thought it was an interesting post-divorce tidbit, and worth a post. I was going to add this to my divorce-in-progress thread, but evidently it's been dormant a bit too long, and Necromancy isn't allowed. lol Original post, for any that don't recall or are interested: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/649509-i-want-divorce-i-feel-selfish Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 Your ex wife sounded very needy, hopefully she's found someone compatible to share her life with. It definitely sounds like a rebound relationship, but maybe it will work out for them. I'm sure you are relieved and wish her the best. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 She sounds like she is one of those ones who can't be without a relationship for long. Monkey-brancher. She certainly moved fast. Wonder if she's pregnant or about to try to get pregnant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 Yeah, some women and men just can't be without a partner in their life. Good you feel happy for her because I know you were never really happy in your marriage. This should relieve any lingering guilt you may have regarding your divorce. I wish you luck in finding your perfect mate. She's out there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 You did say she was a very sweet woman, no kids, good well paying job and self sufficient, so really not surprising someone snapped her up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 Wow, from separation in January to engagement in September. Hope she's not repeating the same rebound dynamic that characterized your marriage... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
David33 Posted November 1, 2018 Share Posted November 1, 2018 Congrats! Seriously. For those of us who are looking at a lifetime, or it will feel like it, of alimony, the ex getting married would be a reason to celebrate. Obviously because payments would stop. I have a dream. Cheers 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Unhappy_Nerd Posted November 5, 2018 Author Share Posted November 5, 2018 Congrats! Seriously. For those of us who are looking at a lifetime, or it will feel like it, of alimony, the ex getting married would be a reason to celebrate. Obviously because payments would stop. I have a dream. Cheers Ouch. Yeah, I wasn't paying any alimony, but I'm sure that would make me bitter and resentful about everything. I hope your situation doesn't last. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 5, 2018 Share Posted November 5, 2018 This is what I was looking for while reading this thread I suspected as much but had to read the backstory to confirm. The fast remarriage is SOP. She's afraid to be alone. I know a MW like this and she makes no bones about it. I don't mean it in the marital sense, but rather physically. If H goes on anything overnight, it's really hard in an empty house, she has shared. I have sensed sometimes over the years she keeps me around mostly for filler to assuage that alone fear. I don't mind so it's no biggie. My bet is she'll never get divorced even if she wants to. Just the fear of having a solo place to live would be debilitating, even if money wasn't a problem (it wouldn't be). Anyway, in your case, makes sense, wish them well, life goes on, glad she found someone else. Thanks for the update. Happy ending. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Unhappy_Nerd Posted November 5, 2018 Author Share Posted November 5, 2018 Thanks everyone. I was feeling a lot of guilt in the beginning, and this did help ameliorate what guilt remained. And I am much happier in my life. It's become clear how much I let my ex control me when I was married. My own fault for letting it get that way, but such is life. Maybe this can be of some comfort to people in the process of divorce: My 18 year marriage ended in divorce, and now both myself and (reportedly) my ex wife are much happier. So don't let people tell you that divorce is always a bad thing. Sometimes it's what you need for both parties to be happy. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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