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Well, I saw this girl who I was talking to on facebook who I knew from high school and I asked her, if she had a b/f and she said yea and I said okay. Well, I was scrolling through match and she had a profile up. I created a fake FB account to confront her about it and she said "he's not my type" What I don;t understand is why don't women just tell you honestly they're not interested in you instead of lieing and saying I have a "b/f" don't they know that's hurtful?

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Well, I saw this girl who I was talking to on facebook who I knew from high school and I asked her, if she had a b/f and she said yea and I said okay. Well, I was scrolling through match and she had a profile up. I created a fake FB account to confront her about it and she said "he's not my type" What I don;t understand is why don't women just tell you honestly they're not interested in you instead of lieing and saying I have a "b/f" don't they know that's hurtful?

 

Which one is more hurtful?

"I have a bf, sorry, bye"

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"NO, I do not find you in the least bit attractive"

 

Do not make fake FB accounts and stalk women who essentially say "No" to you.

Leave them be.

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I don't understand how you got burned ?

 

Men and Women will normally go with the easiest less hurtful way to say no without hurting the person's feelings, it's up to the person being rejected to know when they are being rejected and there is no chance

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Well, I saw this girl who I was talking to on facebook who I knew from high school and I asked her, if she had a b/f and she said yea and I said okay. Well, I was scrolling through match and she had a profile up. I created a fake FB account to confront her about it and she said "he's not my type" What I don;t understand is why don't women just tell you honestly they're not interested in you instead of lieing and saying I have a "b/f" don't they know that's hurtful?

 

 

Bro, don't go around creating profiles to stalk women, or to make them feel uncomfortable or whatever other reason that you might think it's valid - it's not.

 

 

Girls who are into you will either pursue you, or they will make it easy and very obvious for you that they want you to pursue them.

 

 

Move on and meet other women, and the reason they don't come out and say to you that they have a boyfriend when they're rejecting you is because you have 5 times their upper body strength, and there's lots of guys that don't take kindly to being rejected and react violently.

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Which one is more hurtful?

"I have a bf, sorry, bye"

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"NO, I do not find you in the least bit attractive"

 

Do not make fake FB accounts and stalk women who essentially say "No" to you.

Leave them be.

I just take it personally, like what did I do?
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You didn't DO anything, there are hundreds/thousands of reasons why a person may reject you, I'd say you got off pretty lightly.

"He's not my type" is fine, straightforward, not nasty and honest.

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Bro, don't go around creating profiles to stalk women, or to make them feel uncomfortable or whatever other reason that you might think it's valid - it's not.

 

 

Girls who are into you will either pursue you, or they will make it easy and very obvious for you that they want you to pursue them.

 

 

Move on and meet other women, and the reason they don't come out and say to you that they have a boyfriend when they're rejecting you is because you have 5 times their upper body strength, and there's lots of guys that don't take kindly to being rejected and react violently.

Well, I knew her in real life and I thought we were friends. I'm done. As I said before if I want the sex that bad, I'll pay for it.
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Well, I knew her in real life and I thought we were friends. I'm done. As I said before if I want the sex that bad, I'll pay for it.

 

 

Most guys would sleep with their female friends if given the chance for it, so you being her friend doesn't make her forget that you're still a man. She figured you wanted to sleep with her/date her and because she wasn't interested in you, that's what she told you. She said she didn't have a boyfriend to make you forget her in that way.

 

 

As I said before if I want the sex that bad, I'll pay for it.

 

 

Guys want to get laid, and girls want to get paid. Tale as old as time:laugh:

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Well, I saw this girl who I was talking to on facebook who I knew from high school and I asked her, if she had a b/f and she said yea and I said okay. Well, I was scrolling through match and she had a profile up. I created a fake FB account to confront her about it and she said "he's not my type" What I don;t understand is why don't women just tell you honestly they're not interested in you instead of lieing and saying I have a "b/f" don't they know that's hurtful?

 

girls like to do things indirectly, whereas men tend to be more forward

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girls like to do things indirectly, whereas men tend to be more forward
Also, she has no idea what I look like now since high school, so how could she not be interested in me or could it be she thought she had nothing in common with me?
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She's just not interested in you and you need to never keep pursuing someone who tells you no, regardless of how they tell you. That's worse than her saying "i have a boyfriend" to spare your feelings that she's not interested in you.

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Also, she has no idea what I look like now since high school, so how could she not be interested in me or could it be she thought she had nothing in common with me?

 

 

 

I don't understand what that gotta do with anything. You might look like a young Robert Redford, but if she ain't looking for anything, she's still not going to want to see you/date you/go out with you.

 

 

There are plenty of guys who are uber hot and that particular girl is still not going to be attracted to him. I saw a guy in the middle of the classroom who was hitting on this girl pretty hard even after she told him no, and he was as hot as a young James Dean, and a lot taller, but that didn't mean anything to her.

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She's just not interested in you and you need to never keep pursuing someone who tells you no, regardless of how they tell you. That's worse than her saying "i have a boyfriend" to spare your feelings that she's not interested in you.
I want the truth, not lies and if she ever was my "friend" in the first place, she would've told me the truth.
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I want the truth, not lies and if she ever was my "friend" in the first place, she would've told me the truth.

 

 

But she doesn't owe you the truth. She didn't want to tell you that she was single because she wasn't interested in you and the fact that you went ahead and created a fake facebook profile to stalk her and to find out her relationship status kinda shows that you were interested in her, because I ain't seeing you doing that for the 60 year old cleaning lady, am I?

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I want the truth, not lies and if she ever was my "friend" in the first place, she would've told me the truth.
I'm just sick of women doing that. Well, I hope she gets hurt in the future whoever she dates.
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But she doesn't owe you the truth. She didn't want to tell you that she was single because she wasn't interested in you and the fact that you went ahead and created a fake facebook profile to stalk her and to find out her relationship status kinda shows that you were interested in her, because I ain't seeing you doing that for the 60 year old cleaning lady, am I?
Why not just simply tell me I'm ont interested in you rather than say I have a b/f when she really doesn't? I'm so sick of that sh** That crap is what drove me crazy back in 2002.
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I'm just sick of women doing that.

 

 

Doing what? politely rejecting you? Look, I was interested in a girl once. I asked her out, which is rather remarkable of me because I'm usually passive about this sort of stuff, and she indirectly told me she had a boyfriend by saying that there was someone she would usually watch movies with, when I asked her out to the movies.

 

 

I instantly realized that she had a boyfriend/or that she didn't have one but wasn't interested in me and I chilled, smiled and shifted the conversation into another area like I hadn't just been rejected.

 

 

 

Well, I hope she gets hurt in the future whoever she dates.

And you wonder why these girls reject you??? You feel entitled to their attention and when they don't want to date you what do you do?? You want them to get hurt?

 

 

 

 

Why not just simply tell me I'm ont interested in you rather than say I have a b/f when she really doesn't?

 

 

Picture yourself to be 5'4''.

 

 

Now picture yourself to have 5 times less the upper body strength of 50% of the world population.

 

 

Now imagine that since the moment you turned 13 and you suddenly found yourself with boobs, not a second went by without guys staring at you/leering at you, approaching you when you didn't give them any ''go ahead, approach me'' believing themselves to be entitled to your time, to date you, to have sex with you, even though they know nothing about you and all they care about is that they like the way you look.

 

 

Spend a few seconds trying to figure out how scary it must be for a woman to have to say no to a guy, and then not knowing how he's going to react. Some guys take it in stride and move on and don't bother the woman anymore. Others because aggressive on the spot, asking you what's wrong, are you a lesbian? Why aren't you attracted to me?

 

And then there are those girls who have guys becoming obsessed and turning into stalkers..

 

 

 

 

 

I'm so sick of that sh** That crap is what drove me crazy back in 2002.

 

 

2002?

 

How old are you?

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Doing what? politely rejecting you? Look, I was interested in a girl once. I asked her out, which is rather remarkable of me because I'm usually passive about this sort of stuff, and she indirectly told me she had a boyfriend by saying that there was someone she would usually watch movies with, when I asked her out to the movies.

 

 

I instantly realized that she had a boyfriend/or that she didn't have one but wasn't interested in me and I chilled, smiled and shifted the conversation into another area like I hadn't just been rejected.

 

 

 

 

 

 

And you wonder why these girls reject you?? You feel entitled to their attention and when they don't want to date you what do you do?? You want them to get hurt?

Just like the case on here when I didn't tip that waitress at a restaurant, because she wouldn't say hi to me. I don't put up with rudeness.
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Just like the case on here when I didn't tip that waitress at a restaurant, because she wouldn't say hi to me. I don't put up with rudeness.

 

 

Maybe she was distracted and didn't realize she hadn't said hi. Maybe she was thinking about the debts she has to pay off and saying hello slipped her mind. Maybe she was having a terrible day and she's only human. Come on, man..

 

 

I'm 30 years old.

Then that means you were 14 years old in 2002. And you were losing your temper and becoming aggravated because a girl rejected you by saying she had a bf?????

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You know how you confronted her about her rejection? This is the exact reason we lie.

Women know that if we say that we're not interested, we are highly likely to have to answer his questions about why we're not interested.

 

The other reason many women do it is because little girls are raised to be 'nice' and not hurt people's feelings. Telling white lies to save feelings is the result of this.

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Just like the case on here when I didn't tip that waitress at a restaurant, because she wouldn't say hi to me. I don't put up with rudeness.

 

And yet, you ARE rude. It's not the waitress's job to "say hi to you." She owes you nothing. You're the rude one. If you want to pay some waitress to "say hi to you," go to Hooters and for $10, they'll sit down and lean their boobs over the table so you can look at them.

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And yet, you ARE rude. It's not the waitress's job to "say hi to you." She owes you nothing. You're the rude one. If you want to pay some waitress to "say hi to you," go to Hooters and for $10, they'll sit down and lean their boobs over the table so you can look at them.

 

There is a long involved story here, it is not as simple as just waitresses saying Hi or not...

https://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/608329-why-do-women-go-out-jerks

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