I'm 25 Lbs Overweight: Women Still Strongly Attracted To Me

[E-Squared]

I sometimes wonder if the confidence thing is BS. I can carry myself confidently at times, but I never get women looking my way.

[basil67]

I sometimes wonder if the confidence thing is BS. I can carry myself confidently at times, but I never get women looking my way.

 

Confidence needs to be combined with style.

[alphamale]

Confidence needs to be combined with style.

 

to that I would add looks, you have to look the part

[LoverOfDance]

Opps, i posted on the wrong thread.

[Springsummer]

I am 5'2 and 122 lb. so have some weight?

 

I wear the same size as models in pants and tops... except they are generally 20cm taller than me...damn...

[basil67]

to that I would add looks, you have to look the part

 

I reckon 80% of men could pull it off in the looks department if they do the best they can with what they've got. The right hairstyle can work wonders

[Lotus_Luna]

I used to have a lean, athletic build in college. 5'9," around 145 lbs or so. Now, 5 years out of college, I am closer to 170 lbs. I can still fit into all of my clothes but it's uncomfortable.

 

What's strange is that I barely notice a difference in how many women are attracted or how strongly attracted they are. As I've gained weight, I've noticed two relatively subtle differences:

 

1. during the daytime, I get fewer stares and smiles which used to happen all the time. Now, I'm largely ignored. (conclusion: if you are wondering about all of those 'ambiguous' stares and smiles during the day, it's a sign of attraction)

 

2. women still approach me a lot and stare etc during weekend evenings out. However, they are less likely to stare at my body, just into my eyes.

 

Otherwise, there is little to any weight penalty. No one calls me fat, no one thinks I'm overweight. It's not affecting my dating life to any noticeable degree just a little less flirtation during the day and the week.

 

The conclusion I take away from this is people are attracted to your face moreso than anything else as long as you are not grossly overweight. Any other men (or women) notice this as well? Or, are we so used to overweight people, that being 20-25 lbs overweight is now being underweight where 30-40 lbs overweight is now defined as overweight?

 

I’m a woman in her early 30’s. I have several children.

 

My weight is slightly above normal. No belly, but curvy.

 

Considering my age, weight and number of children I get A LOT of attention.

 

To the point I stopped wearing shorts over the Summer because it was causing too many stares.

 

I was 15lbs thinner before my last child. But my confidence was ****.

 

I think feeling good about myself and putting out good vibes is everything.

 

 

That or men have a real MILF fetish...

[Mysterio]

The BMI is a joke. I just don't take it to merit anymore. Nothing is perfect. So might as well enjoy what you got.

[sabaton]

I sometimes wonder if the confidence thing is BS. I can carry myself confidently at times, but I never get women looking my way.

 

It mostly is. Don't take me wrong. Put 2 guys in front of a woman and match them in looks: 6'2'' 180lbs at 9% body fat, a wide, square jawline, wide cheekbones, a head of full, thick hair, straight white teeth, smooth skin without blemishes, and the same income and college education.

 

Since they're so attractive, physically and sexually, her choice is going to be hard to make.

 

Now, if the people in this equation were socially evolved, they would just start a relationship with the girl, both of the guys, but due to the way society views monogamy as this sacred and beautiful nonsense, the girl would have to pick just one.

 

She would pick the guy with the higher self-esteem and sense of confidence.

 

I reckon 80% of men could pull it off in the looks department if they do the best they can with what they've got. The right hairstyle can work wonders

Nah. That's being too generous. Most men are average. Even if we did away with the obesity epidemic, there'd still be a LOT of factors that would prevent most men from ever becoming sexually attractive. Especially sexually attractive to a wide majority of women, to the point where these women would consider having casual sex with them.

 

Even if nearly every man in the world woke up today with the body of an 18 year old Cross-Country runner, the truth would still remain the same, the biological truth that many men if not most are going to lose their hair and that adds 20 years to a man's age, aging him terribly.

 

Then even with the right sense of fashion style lol, there'd still be millions of men who are shorter than 5'10''(and that's considered short in Europe already) and what woman is going to feel attracted to a man who isn't considerably taller than her? haha, even more when she's 5'7'' and already 5 inches taller than most of the girls from her Country, and she loves to wear heels and dresses that accentuate how long and gorgeous her legs are.

 

Then there are those men who have a weak jawline, or a small chin, or a baby face, or flat cheekbones,or their skin is pale and that's a turn off, or whatever it is that keeps them them from being considered hot, sexy, sensual, and worthy of a woman's no strings-attached one-night stand

 

In any case. The majority of men will never be considered hot. Or attractive. Or handsome. Or cute.

Edited November 3, 2018 by sabaton

[sabaton]

I’m a woman in her early 30’s. I have several children.

 

My weight is slightly above normal. No belly, but curvy.

 

Considering my age, weight and number of children I get A LOT of attention.

 

To the point I stopped wearing shorts over the Summer because it was causing too many stares.

 

I was 15lbs thinner before my last child. But my confidence was ****.

 

I think feeling good about myself and putting out good vibes is everything.

 

 

That or men have a real MILF fetish...

 

 

That's awesome and congrats on staying fit and attractive. Its always beautiful to know that there's still people that care about their attractiveness.

 

 

 

my mother gave birth to 6 children(5 daughters and one guy: me) and her weight is still 90lbs at 4'10'' and she is still approached by attractive men in their early 20s, mid 20s and 30s, with older men thinking she's too young for them to approach

 

 

That or men have a real MILF fetish.

 

 

Haha. 7 billion people in the world. Attractive women are attractive at any age.

[Lotus_Luna]

That's awesome and congrats on staying fit and attractive. Its always beautiful to know that there's still people that care about their attractiveness.

 

 

 

my mother gave birth to 6 children(5 daughters and one guy: me) and her weight is still 90lbs at 4'10'' and she is still approached by attractive men in their early 20s, mid 20s and 30s, with older men thinking she's too young for them to approach

 

 

 

Haha. 7 billion people in the world. Attractive women are attractive at any age.

 

I have 5 kids. Genetics have helped, I’ve come into my own with age. But loosing the weight and caring for myself has been important. It’s an extension of my self worth. I feel I am worth the time and effort to make a priority.

 

I don’t know if I look young for my age? But I think taking care of oneself and putting out a positive and charming vibe means a lot. I know men who aren’t particularly hot that have a magnetism.

 

Although I’ve only found 1 guy attractive in the last 4 years.

[edgygirl]

I'm dating a thin guy... I'm thin too... but my preference in the past years has been overweight guys. Thankfully people have differing tastes in the world... not everyone likes the same things. I also like BRAINS, and my days of going for hot guys are def in the past... not even attracted to someone who is "too hot/pretty".

[alphamale]

I'm dating a thin guy... I'm thin too... but my preference in the past years has been overweight guys. Thankfully people have differing tastes in the world... not everyone likes the same things. I also like BRAINS, and my days of going for hot guys are def in the past... not even attracted to someone who is "too hot/pretty".

 

intelligence is very sexy edgygirl

[edgygirl]

Exactly! Much more than a body or a pretty face

 

 

People who like Tears for Fears as in your signature are intelligent!

 

 

 

intelligence is very sexy edgygirl