The gift that left me alone

[Miss Uglybody]

Think im just venting no real reason in why im writing..maybe for some consoling words or wisdom. Been in a long distance relationship for about a month or so. This guy stays in NY, and i stay in Cali. we met in a yahoo chatroom, hit it off well, we exchanged numbers that night for some odd reason..oh yea we had talked on the mic, so i was like well he already heard my voice in real time why not just give him the number. we hit it off on the phone as well.

 

a week goes by and he says he loves my quirky personality and that he so called "liked" me, i didnt say much to that, just laughed it off and went on about my bizz. we talked for a few more weeks, and he asked me out, he wore on me, so i said sure why not. so thats where the relationship began.. He never asked for a picture that night we talked, and we hadnt talked online since the night we met (well we caught each other on once, and i had showed him a pic of me). so his birthday just passed and i sent him a nice sentimental gift for his bday, inclosed i had written him a poem, wrote him a long nice letter, and sent him a picture for his wallet or watever.

 

that was last friday...

 

today is sunday, and since last friday when he received the package we've talked for about an hour and some minutes all throughout the week. he called on friday thanking me for the pkge, said i was cute, blah blah..didnt hear from him until labor day when i called to make sure he was ok..he said he had food poisoning..so i was like ok well ill let you get back to resting. and then the last time i talked to him was on wednesday when he called me at 7 in the morning before i went to class, and we had talked for about almost an hr,not quite. and i havent heard from him since..Ive sent text messages like we usually did just to say hey and see how his day was goin..NO REPLY..

 

so on friday afternoon, i took a hint and was like he hasnt been calling me or texting like he usually does since i sent him that gift, so he must not be attracted to me..so with that, i just simply left him a text message and said well i get the point your throwin at me, and ill do you a favor and we can just be friends,etc...

 

i dont understand how men say oh i just want a girl that makes me laugh, cares, is considerate, nice/kind, and has a great personality, and then wen they find her, they pull a stunt like this..JERK..he could have at least been honest with me instead of taking the coward road..He wasnt the type id usually go for, but i fell for his personality, and thought he did as well, well i mean since thats what he said... so i guess he didnt love me like he said he did..LDR's are bull

[Merin]

Well to start... you've "known" this Guy for a month from an online chat room, so was he ever "In Love" with you... he doesn't even know you. Even if the 2 of you talked on the phone several times or text messaged one another you don't really know this Guy at all.

 

This is part of the problem IMO with online romances and especially when the 2 people in question live in different states... this isn't to say it NEVER works out, but saying I think that I feel there is often a false sense of "Knowing" someone in these situations where a lot of people become very caught up in the "Romance" letting thier gaurd down when really the only things they "Know" about the other person is what he/she chooses to tell them.

 

Physical attraction is IMO necessary to have a romantic relationship regardless of the circumstance or nature of the relationship (being LD) I'm not at all saying it is everything, but yeah... it is important.

 

Regardless... of course it was rude of him to have behaved in the manner he has... if he no longer was interested in speaking with you regarding a romantic possibility then yes he should've said so and not just ignored you.

 

However don't allow this one assclown to deter you from seeking out other people... just keep in mind that online romances need to be taken a good, real look at... especially when the 2 in question are indeed in different states and do not have the luxury of an actual meeting in real life to see if that other person is who they say they are, to see if there is any real in person chemistry between the 2... Love takes time to develop between people EVEN when the physical chemistry IS there... so be cautious when someone you really don't know, have never met or spent time with starts telling you they are in love.

 

Hang in there and hope you feel better soon

[Jtizzle]

I agree with Merin, and im sorry to hear you go through this..aint nothin wrong with bein vain, and if your gonna do so, he should have asked for a pic first before he even tried to get you all involved and whatnot. theres times where you can absolutely fall in love with someone based on their personality.. ive done that (im easy for humorous guys:love: ) .. and then theres times you want to be sexually attracted to some folks, nothin wrong with that.. as you stated its been a month since yall dated or known each other for about a month thats not enough time to know that you love someone.. you have to really know someone before you can take that next step of loving them..and if you dont know their fav. color, or what they fear, what they love,etc then you arent in love..youll heal from this i dont think all men are assfaces, so ull find someone that loves you for you..