Annie767 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 Hi all, I had been in a very happy 3 year relationship with my partner. I knew they had mental health issues when I got with them. I was assured that they have been longstanding and thus if I wasn't asked for help they didn't need it. And I was asked not to ask which creates negativity. But recently it has wreaked havoc. I have been told my past mistakes causes him a lot of anxiety and he's not sure he can move his head past it. I have been asked to give space and time even though he loves me 100% and can't imagine life without me. He can't think straight and his own head scares him. He is at a friend's and I am at the family home. I have said I would leave this weekend and he got incredibly upset and doesn't know what to do. & doesn't want me to leave. I am trying to be supportive but what else can I do? If I go no contact he also feels it means I don't care. How do I support him and rescue this without going insane myself? I have offered every reassurance I can offer. I am in limbo and this is hell. Can this be an anxiety crisis? Looking forward to responses from those with anxiety as well. I love him and I am committed to him 100% but I don't know if I am capable of hanging on for so long. I am already losing a lot of weight. Many thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 I have been told my past mistakes causes him a lot of anxiety and he's not sure he can move his head past it. . Here's the key sentence in your post. He's got issues with your past mistakes, he's not sure if he can get past them. Nothing you need to do at all! You can't change the past and you can't change what's going on inside his head. Your part is easy. Leave him alone until and unless he can get past it. If he can do it, he knows where to find you. This is about him, not you. Link to post Share on other sites
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