KingSpider147 Posted November 2, 2018 Share Posted November 2, 2018 Hi guys, first time poster and long story so apologies in advance. In a bit of a pickle here. So myself and my GF broke up for the 3rd time last week. We've known each other for 3 years. The first time we broke up was when we were LDR for a week (ie 2 different countries), second time was when we'd be on other sides of the country for the summer. Both were meant to be "breaks", second one I ended up breaking up with her, first 2 breaks were initiated by her. So as it turns out the first "break" she took was because she wanted to get with another guy (I found this out by looking in her FB messages, I know, I'm no saint). And the second time she said she needed the break to look after herself and that she wasn't using it to get with other guys, but she did just that anyways. So when I found out about the 1st break being about getting with another guy (which I found out during the second break) I was not impressed but still forgave her, to an extent I suppose. We agreed to try again 2 months ago and things were going ok, but I had a really hard time trusting her, because I know she was lying to me about certain things and I felt taken for granted. So last week I got drunk and hadn't taken my antidepressants (both of us struggle with our mental health) and broke up with her, saying that I don't trust her. It was hasty I know and cruel, but at the same time I felt like she hadn't done much to earn back my trust since we got back together. I just don't know what to do right now. We're giving each other space, and she has never had the chance to fully miss me because we never went more than 3 weeks NC at most. I feel like a bastard for continuously bringing up the past with her because I know she feels bad about what happened, but at the same time I felt completely disrespected and that I was doing all the work to make things work despite me being the one that was taken for granted essentially. I don't want to hurt her feelings so I won't talk to her whilst she focuses on college (we're both in med school), but how could we ever fix this mess? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 2, 2018 Share Posted November 2, 2018 She dumped you twice for other guys basically. You need to figure out why you accept being disrespected. That your biggest issue rather that letting go of a gf who is not relationship material anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KingSpider147 Posted November 2, 2018 Author Share Posted November 2, 2018 That I can agree with! I even blocked my ex but still texted her to let her know it wasn't anything personal just so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. I've always been too nice and never got the respect I deserved. Link to post Share on other sites
scallop Posted November 3, 2018 Share Posted November 3, 2018 Sounds like it wasn't meant to be, I'd focus on med school and find someone more deserving later. Link to post Share on other sites
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