Ex-boyfriend contacted me - what does it mean?

[Chigirl]

My boyfriend and I dated for 5.5 months. Things were fairly serious - we talked about marriage (which he initiated). 3 weeks after the "marriage" and "I've never felt like this before" talk, we broke up. Things pretty much went sour after that conversation. I felt him pulling away and thus questioned him, which he did not like. Eventually, it ended in a heated argument and we broke up the next day. We decided we were better suited to be with someone else.

 

I took the breakup very hard, despite it being fairly mutual. It took about 2 weeks for me to be able to wake up and not have him be the first thing on my mind. I felt like I was finally moving on. Ironically, that same day, he sent me an email. I was completely shocked. I was not expecting to hear from him. I expected things to be over since we'd exchanged our "stuff" after the breakup and said "see ya around". So, I thought that meant no contact with each other unless we happen to see each other out, in which case we'd be friendly. To my surprise, the email brought back all the emotions from when we first broke up. I was mad b/c it was as if I'd have to start over from scratch to move on.

 

I responded to his email, he responded back, and I responded asking what his intentions were for emailing me - was he checking on me or were there other reasons?? I have yet to hear back (I sent it 3 days ago). So, my question is why would a guy contact you after ending a relationship after only 2 weeks? He's older than me and has been in enough relationships, that I assumed there's an unspoken rule where you do not contact someone until at least 2-3 months down the road...if at all (I had not planned to contact him). Why would he contact me after 2 weeks? If roles were reversed, and I'd contacted him after 2 weeks, I'm sure he would have thought I was psycho and couldn't get over him. Whereas, I'm flattered that he emailed me, but also angry b/c I'm having to think about him again. So, what could his intentions have been?

[sundrop]

I.

 

So, my question is why would a guy contact you after ending a relationship after only 2 weeks?

 

 

Maybe clear his concious. Make sure you are ok, to make himself feel better.

[Chigirl]

He didn't dump me, though. It was mutual. We both agreed it was for the best. So, why clear his concious? I'm fine!

[sundrop]

Good question?

My ex did that a few days ago. I ended the relationship, but he just wanted to call and check on me? I don't know, just a guess.