Would you say this situation is GIGS? What do you think are his intentions?

[Potatoes]

Ex and I broke up 7 months ago, he broke up with me out of the blue, we were together for 3 years and main reason was because I guess he’s going through a quarter life crisis, he wasnt happy with where he is in life, financially, career, living situation and family. He breaks up with me to “focus on himself” but it was a little fishy because he didn’t really want to work it out. But overall our relationship was a good one, we got along really well and rarely fought. Fast forward 7 months later I found out yesterday that he is now dating this girl from his work who I kinda had suspicions on, but I THINK they just recently started dating, he might’ve lined her up after me or had GIGS idk THEY ALSO MOVED IN TOGETHER!. But here’s the thing, 7 months later AND now with a new girlfriend AND living together, he still continues to talk to me, he texts me at 4 or 5am in the morning when he wakes up for work EVERYDAY and he would text me throughout work, he would send me things that would be flirty sometimes and even sometimes telling me “to be careful” or like he gets worried about me because he doesn’t want things to happen to me when I’m going out or something or even telling me to have a good day at work; he has been like that since basically the day of our breakup. Idk this whole situation is just ODD the fact that he still continues to talk to me. I went cold turkey on him for a month because I was just tired of this and he ended up coming back and we’re talking again... Would this be a case of grass is greener? I know he is probably leading me on, but even if he has a new girlfriend wouldn’t his attention be focused on her???? I don’t even know how he has the time to even talk to me AND be with her...

yesterday the last time he talked to me was 3pm and haven’t heard from him since then. Later on that night *buzz* he texts me at 2am explaining himself that he got home from work and just knocked out... ok? No need to explain yourself... Idk what’s going on. What do you guys think of this situation? And I know I need to cut him off and stuff but what do you guys think his intentions are? Has anyone had a situation with GIGS where your ex left you but still continues to talk to you? I feel like if I confront him he would just say that we’re just “friends” but a year ago he specifically told me that he’s not the type to stay friends with an ex..... ok? Then wth are we?

[loststarsx]

He's using you as an emotional dumping ground. If it was that long, I mean, it may not be GIGS. However, if he is not over you, it can still be a rebound. Honestly, that whole break up sounded so fishy. I bet he really did have her lined up. It sucks, it's a terrible feeling. It happened to me. There is not anything you can do. In my opinion, he gets the best of both worlds. I would cut him off. If you want him back at any point, you need to crawl out of the friendzone. A lot of people will try to stay friends, it's not worth it. It sounds like GIGS to me, but the timing is what sort of throws in a curve ball.

[basil67]

Well, I guess it's GIGS in respect that he thinks he can do better....but this is pretty much the way all relationships end. People generally don't go leaving relationships which are close to perfect.

 

There is no need to confront him - just send a return text saying "We are no longer together and I'm not going to accept your texts anymore. Good luck with your life" and then block him.

[Guildford]

I asked this question on an earlier posting and got no response so I will ask it again. I even Googled the question and did not get an answer. What does G.I.G.S. stand for?

[ExpatInItaly]

I asked this question on an earlier posting and got no response so I will ask it again. I even Googled the question and did not get an answer. What does G.I.G.S. stand for?

 

Grass Is Greener Syndrome

[ExpatInItaly]

Well, I guess it's GIGS in respect that he thinks he can do better....but this is pretty much the way all relationships end. People generally don't go leaving relationships which are close to perfect.

 

There is no need to confront him - just send a return text saying "We are no longer together and I'm not going to accept your texts anymore. Good luck with your life" and then block him.

 

Yes, this. GIGS is just another name for a break-up in which one party wants to see what else is out there and perhaps already had their eye on someone else.

 

OP, my guess is that his intentions are to keep you around as Plan B in case his new relationship falls apart. There is probably trouble in paradise there and he figures you will be around to entertain him when it suits him. What he is doing is very unfair both to you and his girlfriend, and it should tell you a lot about the sort of guy he really is. It's not good. Maybe he was doing the same thing to you with her before he broke up with you.

 

Also as basil indicated above, confronting him is pointless. He'll try to justify his behaviour and you won't get any answers.