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As the headline stated, has anyone ever expose your affair to the wives or husband's? In order to break them up or to pressurise your partner to divorce?

 

How did it turn out?

 

Ps. no I'm not the OW or OM

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As the headline stated, has anyone ever expose your affair to the wives or husband's? In order to break them up or to pressurise your partner to divorce?

 

How did it turn out?

 

Ps. no I'm not the OW or OM

 

I don't think exposing to the BW would break them up, she may get competitive and fight to keep him. With a BH, he may leave.

 

Personally, I would never want to tell the BW about the affair. IMO, that's MM's responsibility.

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I didn't tell the BH, rather sent him all his wife's love letters and cards. Didn't do it to force anything in their M other than put an exclamation point on the goodbye the prior day. Turned out they went on a cruise the day after the stuff arrived, a birthday present for the MW. She got her birthday present from me, lunch and a goodbye, at my place on her birthday ;)

 

It worked great. Not a peep further from anyone. That was 27 years ago so before the commercial internet. We still used mail and pay phones back then.

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I would never contact her.

 

I would tell him to be honest with her if he really wants his marriage. It’s a way to move forward. Face their problems and decide what they want.

 

I would NEVER pressure him to leave. I wouldn’t want him to leave for me.... nope.

 

He would have to leave for himself because he’s done.

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I was contacted by the wife of my spouse’s AP. This was pre-Internet, she actually knocked on my door.

 

Interesting conversation...

 

Mr. Lucky

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l def' would've if he had a damn partner , l wish.

When l found out he didn't have one , knew l was screwed.

Because l've heard many stories about exposing it especially to his or her spouse, and it very often blows the whole thing to bits, again , l wish.

 

So l def' would've if l could've.

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I didn't tell the BH, rather sent him all his wife's love letters and cards. Didn't do it to force anything in their M other than put an exclamation point on the goodbye the prior day. Turned out they went on a cruise the day after the stuff arrived, a birthday present for the MW. She got her birthday present from me, lunch and a goodbye, at my place on her birthday ;)

 

It worked great. Not a peep further from anyone. That was 27 years ago so before the commercial internet. We still used mail and pay phones back then.

 

What's BH???

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