Keeping photos from past relationships

[beowulf44]

When you're in a new relationship with someone fairly serious, what do you do with all the photos of the ex that you may have on your phone? (regular and explicit). What do you think is the "right" thing to do? Do you keep them? Do you store them somewhere else for memories sake? Do you delete them?

 

Just wondering whats appropriate.

[basil67]

Explicit should be deleted. Not only out of respect for the new partner, but also the person who is in the photos. I'd be appalled to think that an ex partner still had racy photos of me.

 

Regular photos could be downloaded, put on a USB and stuck in a drawer (the modern day equivalent of putting the old photo albums in a box)

[ExpatInItaly]

There is no reason to keep explicit photos at all.

 

I have saved some regular photos on an external hard drive, simply because I spent years with a couple of exes and they are part of my life story.

 

However, I don't keep any photos of exes on my phone. I don't need or want quick and easy access to them.

[snowboy91]

Explicit? Delete. For the sake of my ex (in case of leakage), myself (in case of emotions) and my new partner (in case of jealousy).

 

Regular? I've kept them, but only because I haven't bothered to delete them. I'm on very good terms with my ex, so considering it's a part of my past there isn't a need to erase it.

[Andy_K]

Explicit ones should be deleted, the rest can be archived on a storage drive somewhere with the rest of your old photos. You don't need to keep them on your phone.

[d0nnivain]

I have never had any explicit photos so to me the right thing is never to take them. If you have them delete them.

 

As for the other photos, they are part of your life & your memories. I would save them to a thumb drive or a cloud so you have them but you have to "work" to access them rather then at your finger tips.

 

I have been happily married for 10 years but I still have pictures from other relationships because I had fun -- there are vacations, holidays, people long since passed. They are good memories. Past a certain age, everybody has a past so it shouldn't be news to a new SO that you had relationships in the past.

[LauraXX]

I'd delete anything explicit, but keep the rest. I love looking at old pictures (including pictures of ex boyfriends) and I'm actually really glad that I kept all of them

[Happy Lemming]

Like others have posted, delete the explicit ones.

 

As for the regular ones, can you have them printed at shutterfly?? I use shutterfly to print all of my digital photos. I have a box in the back of my closet with pictures from past relationships.

 

My present long term girlfriend also has a box at her apartment with old pictures and her old wedding album from when she was married, many years ago.

[Mrs._December]

Sheesh...if everyone truly deleted the explicit pictures of their ex's, there'd be nothing to see on the Revenge Porn websites. :laugh:

[smackie9]

Hah I think I have mine in a shoe box somewhere.....funny thing, my mom pulled out some old photos of me and my ex recently. I grabbed some scissors and cut him out of each one lol.

 

 

 

Since this is an era of nothing but selfies and documenting what you had for lunch. Keeping a few I think would be OK, but not a whole library. Those are your memories, and just because you are seeing someone new doesn't mean you should toss them out. BUT, I agree with the others..pornographic stuff would be an issue with me.

[kendahke]

I've gotten rid of pictures of my ex and I've never taken explicit pictures, but he's sent me d-pics which have been long gone.

[rightondude]

If any of you ladies think any of your exes have deleted any even slightly racy photos you've sent them...uh, I got some bad news for you....

[Nilfiry]

I keep everything even if I never look at them again, since I am not bothered by past things and too lazy to go through them. Any new relationship does not need to know unless asked because it is so trivial that it should not be a problem at all.

 

Of course, that is just me. If seeing old photos make you feel anything bad, such as shame, guilt, or displeasure, then you should delete them.

[Sarah_Smiles]

I just downloaded mine off my phone.. printed them all out and boxed them in a photo box in my closet. I didn't want any on my phone or on my computer anymore to accidentally look at but I didn't want to get rid of them because they were many years a part of my life.

[snowcones]

Get rid of the explicit and store the others somewhere else.

[No_Go]

Still on my phone and will clean them up if I ever get to find a way to organize my phone Delete - no, why? Photos are memories of different parts of my life, exes photos are no different than photos of old places where I lived, or old friends etc.

 

P.S. Explicit ones I don’t have, never had, never will. What for? To be scared to death if someone steals my phone ?!

 

 

When you're in a new relationship with someone fairly serious, what do you do with all the photos of the ex that you may have on your phone? (regular and explicit). What do you think is the "right" thing to do? Do you keep them? Do you store them somewhere else for memories sake? Do you delete them?

 

Just wondering whats appropriate.

[Arris]

I too would get rid of explicit ones.

I am in the middle of divorce right now and not sure about this stuff myself.

I'm trying to save my marriage until the end, but after that, I'm thinking I don't want any part of my wife again, after 30 years.

For me, I don't think any good will come from looking back and since our divorce is not mutual, I feel really betrayed by her. I guess it depends on your situation.

 

 

Edit: Pics on my phone would be gone for sure. Either for good or backed up somewhere else.