Sexless Marriage or LTR

[sabaton]

Once upon a time I might have said absolutely not. Even before I ever had sex I knew I'd probably always have a high sex drive. Sex is very important to me. I love sex. Sex is one of my favorite things.

 

That being said: my fiance is a good handful of years older than I am. He's a strong, healthy guy, so it might not be an issue, but I've thought about what it would be like if his desire/ability tanks before mine does. There's also always the possibility that injury or illness might leave either of us more or less incapacitated. Human bodies don't last forever.

 

I can't imagine leaving him or running around on him in either case. In sickness and in health, and all that. Yes, sex has always been a huge part of our relationship and it's a big part of why I love him so much (Skin contact, sexual pleasure, orgasms = oxytocin. This is the most basic stuff of human pair bonding - not as much for men but for most people with a uterus, YES). But it's not everything.

 

He stepped into my life during a time when I really needed a man to wrap me up in his arms all night. And drive me places. And help pay my bills. And hold me when I cry. And kiss me and touch me and hold my hand. And dozens of other things he does for me without even being asked. He takes such good care of me. When he gets old and his body starts failing, I want to take care of him until he dies.

 

Nah. Oxytocin isn't the magical love glue that binds couples together. if it was, the majority of marriages wouldn't end up in divorce, with divorce being initiated mostly by women, now would it? And that was back home in the states, with the divorce rate being at around 54% with many marriages being unhappy and unfilfilling, but for some reason or another, a divorce doesn't occur.

 

 

Over here in this beautiful Country I was lucky to land on, the divorce rate for first marriages is 70% after a few years of marriage(4-7 years), 80% for the second marriags, and 90% for third marriages.

 

 

There was a girl I wanted to bang, but she told me she would only let me smash if I was her date to her father's third marriage, but I ain't about to spend money on an airplane ticket. I did find it hilarious that the guy wasn't even yet 50 and he was already on his third wedding with that one lol.

 

 

So, Unless the majority of men are terrible in bed and can't make a woman orgasm I ain't seeing sex being this magical and divine act that makes women fall in love with men, and wanting to spend the rest of their lives with them, no. And if the men are that bad in bed and can't make a girl orgasm, well, maybe they should have picked better men

Edited November 15, 2018 by sabaton

[Kitty Tantrum]

Disagree. I think the fallacy here is in thinking that LOVE itself (wherever it stems from) is a good indicator of compatibility, and/or a strong enough glue to hold together a dysfunctional relationship. It is neither.