youngconfusedme Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 I have come to my senses, I love my husband and want to be married to him he is wonderful (not perfect) but above average. The fact that he has put up with my bull sh** the past couple of months and didn't just write me off speaks volumes to me. I think I tested the waters b/c I was feeling like I was expendible to him and now I realize that I am not and if he didn't have me his world would stop spinning, and since I always felt that way about him but never felt it back from him before now, I realize that we can make it. I only made out with my OM there were no emotions I didn't confide in him, I would not consider him my best friend, it was physical and now it is over as far as I am concerned. Thing is I work with him, how do I end it and keep up a level of professionalism, and friendliness that will not cause suspicion from my co-worker (we are both friends w/ this person). I also can't stop thinking about him, I don't want him anymore. I don't want to end my marriage. So how do I get him out of my mind? Link to post Share on other sites
Dean3922 Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 By keeping your distance. You cannot be real friends now but you can be work acquaintances. You speak when you see the other and be cordial. You let him know that you are with your H and he is not a part of your personal life. It will take him some time to realize that you are serious about this so you have to stick to your guns. When he tries to flirt or get friendly let him know that he is your co-worker and he will be treated as any other co-worker. Over time he will get your message. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 Thing is I work with him, how do I end it and keep up a level of professionalism, and friendliness that will not cause suspicion from my co-worker (we are both friends w/ this person). I also can't stop thinking about him, I don't want him anymore. I don't want to end my marriage. So how do I get him out of my mind? Keep on this track and in no time this MM will be out of your mind for good. Everytime he creeps into your thoughts, STOP and do something that will distract you. Focus all your energy into your husband. Go away together on a romantic holiday and have fun together! At work, be professional, not personal with the MM. Don't cross the line with him at all and if he brings anything up that has nothing to do with work, then you tell him you don't feel comfortable with that kind of talk anymore and he must respect that. Try not to be concerned what others think at work. Just dive into your work and keep busy...That's what you're there for anyway, not to make friends and have fun all day. (I don't mean that as harshly as that may read...) You made a mistake and now you know who you want. Try your best to move past it all and care less about what MM thinks/does. Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 I would contemplate getting another job, honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngconfusedme Posted September 12, 2005 Author Share Posted September 12, 2005 I would contemplate getting another job, honestly. That is NOT an option... Link to post Share on other sites
fullofhope2day Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 I think that it is good you came to your senses and think that if you are just strong in your resolve to end things they will end peacefully. From your previous posts it looks as though he wasn't that in to you anyway so he will probably just let you go... Good luck and be strong keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
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