Being Taken For Granted No Matter What.

[Epythamus]

Everyone is susceptible to being taken for granted every now and then, right? Well, in my case, it happens literally with everyone. Whenever I talk to someone, they always keep telling me things such as "you're amazing", "you're cute", "I love your sense of humor and you always make me laugh", "I would love to meet you" etc.. But you know what happens? I get ignored and taken for granted by those very same people.

 

They barely make any effort into staying in contact with me and zero contact in meeting up with me. Now, I do realize people have their lives and there are days when they're going to be super busy, but these people I know? They can't possibly be busy for like two months straight, right? After all, I see them talking and meeting with other people. I do realize these people have known the latter for a certain amount of time longer than me, but still.

 

I feel as though people either get bored of me easily or they find something in me that just repels them away from me and I can't put my fingers on them.

[Garcon1986]

Unfortunately when you try to date, you sign on the dotted line and accept the risk of women taking advantage of you or taking you for granted. I have had years of this, and my strategy was to not let myself get too emotionally invested in one woman before she starts consistently showing her dedication (coming over, sharing daily living stuff, calling, doing events together).

 

 

My feedback was almost identical - you are a great guy, but no thanks you are Asian, or no thanks, you are kind of creepy, or no thanks, just got ghosted. What you could do, is bring a trusted friend around who can point stuff out to you, that maybe is invisible. I guarantee that the women who abandoned you couldn't care less, so you shouldn't invest too much time in somebody who treats you like rubbish. Those women are just gossiping about the next tall and handsome guy who they are crushing on, so just move along - next bus comes in 15 minutes anyway.