This guy randomly messaged me on meetup and wants to text. Should I give him my #?

[Dodgersfan11]

I'm in this meetup group-there's like 6000 members in this group and so far its not really active in meetups. Its NOT a singles dating meetup its just an 20's/30's social meetup. I haven't meet anyone in this group as of yet, this random guy messaged me and said, 'hey cutie! How's it going?" I replied, Hey, I'm good, how are you?" Then he replied back, "Want to text?" Then he gave me his number. I looked at his profile and he just joined, looks like he's treated it like a dating app b/c he's in a few singles group. I was like wtf? Surely, why the hell should I give this stranger my number? It shouldn't be that easy for him to get it. And why the hell don't he want to talk on meetup? I haven't responded yet, I might block him. Thoughts?

[alphamale]

I own/run a dining out meetup group here in the metro Detroit area. This happens all the time to women in my group. Most of them do not respond to these types of solicitations. Whatever you do DO NOT give him your phone number, he is probably the nerdy type who doesn't do well with women in the real world.

[Dodgersfan11]

Yeah, I don't even know who I'm talking to on the other end. Could be a psycho. Now, if I would have met the guy in REAL life like in an event, then it that would be a totally different story. But heck no, I ain't giving him my personal info.

[mrs rubble]

If he wants to chat he can continue to chat via the messenger service, if he annoys you block him.

I repeat alphamale's advice DO NOT GIVE him your number.

[EthanBlack]

I've done meetup before. It's usually full of single loser guys who are super desperate to get a girlfriend.

 

This guy may not be a bad guy but it's hard to separate the wheat from the chaff in social situations like this.

 

Advise you not to go to meetup and to not give your # to any guy until you've met him face to face and had a chance to get to know him.

[Dodgersfan11]

Out of curiosity- I searched for him on facebook and found him. He's 30 and it appears that he is a single dad. His son looks like he's about 8 years old or so. Well, he must have gotten laid at some point in his early 20's to produce a child. Its still creepy and he has no game if he thinks messaging random girls that he's never met that he's gonna get numbers.

[nospam99]

Out of curiosity- I searched for him on facebook and found him. He's 30 and it appears that he is a single dad. His son looks like he's about 8 years old or so. Well, he must have gotten laid at some point in his early 20's to produce a child. Its still creepy and he has no game if he thinks messaging random girls that he's never met that he's gonna get numbers.

 

OP, I see that overnight you responded on another thread echoing the assertion that 'it's the man's job to approach'.

 

On topic here, I vote 'no'. Get his number but don't give him yours. Of course unless you've blocked callerID, he'll have yours if you decide to text him.

 

Off topic, how do you expect/want to meet men? From your other posts, I get the picture that your tactic is to glam up and cruise bars. Is that it? Something else? How's that working for you?

 

I ask because as an admittedly 'older gentleman' 'recently' (a little over a year) 'back in the dating game' and interested in a relationship rather than a NSA ONS or FWB, I find it challenging to know where to 'fish' and would like to better understand distaff tactics. Just me of course, but in my case bars are just not an option.