raindrop_rose Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 (edited) I'm a 24 year old woman and I’ve developed feelings for a 19 year old male coworker. First off, I know the age gap is probably a negative. Regardless, my feelings and attraction towards him have grown stronger over the past few months. I just can’t help it. This has really caught me by surprise. I'm confused about whether I should do anything, or if I should just ignore this. Note: my workplace is quite relaxed and we do not have policies against coworkers dating. Ugh. I don’t know what to do. He's kind, respectful, intelligent, caring, funny and independent (he lives out of home). He's a hard worker, and also studies full-time. He's one of the most polite and chivalrous men I've ever met, and I find myself constantly impressed by him. There are things he does that make me feel he might be interested in me too. He always stands close to me, and I can literally feel the heat/sparks between us. He always looks at me and smiles when I walk by, sometimes helps me with my work without me even asking, casually touches my shoulders/back, and I catch him looking at me. We're good work buddies, but whenever we talk alone, he seems nervous and often goes quiet, yet around others he's always extremely talkative. Any thoughts/advice would be appreciated. I’m probably over-thinking this whole thing. Maybe he’s just being friendly towards me and there’s nothing more to it. I’ve never liked someone five years younger than me. He’s so much more mature than guys I’ve met who are my own age - it’s crazy. Anyway, should I just ignore this? Edited November 22, 2018 by raindrop_rose Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 Ask him if he wants to have a coffee (or whatever) after work some time. His response should tell you whether he returns your interest or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 I don't think the age gap is an issue at all. But the working together thing can get awkward. Tough one. It is a distraction and I would hate to see it all go South. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 I'm 33 - 19 year olds drive me absolutely batty most of the time. This shouldn't be that surprising with that age gap though. At any rate I don't know - you are probably already in for a messy time if there are sparks flying at work between you two.... Could be worse if you date... Link to post Share on other sites
wolfe Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 I don't think the age gap is an issue if you get along and have some common interests. It might mean you will be wanting to settle down long before he does (if it ever comes to that) - but that could happen with an older man too. If you date then break up it will be awkward at work, but in love you have to take risks. If nobody ever dated anyone from work there'd be a lot less couples and a lot more lonely people in the world. Don't wait for him to ask you out, ask him out. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 He doesn't sound like your typical 19 year old...most are not that mature BUT he could be different outside of work...and TBH dating a coworker is never a good idea. I did it once and there is no way I would ever do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
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