Would you have left if affair partner wanted relationship?

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I would have ended it the moment they expressed an interest in a real relationship.

 

They were my side project, not someone I wanted to build a life with.

 

Some spice if you will, but not the real deal.

Edited December 7, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[YoungCandy]

He and his wife aren’t working on things, it’s just best financially and for the kids. And if that works for a year, 5 or 20 is his business.

 

I know this sounds like a reasonable compromise to a lot of people, and I am also struggling to make a decision. Deep down, I cannot allow myself to stay in a marriage for solely family and financial reasons.

 

A former work associate of mine once told me he and his ex-wife had waited until their kids turned 18 before they tried to work on the relationship. It was too late, they filed for divorced just one year after their kids moved out. Heart broken and financially distressed, he postponed his retirement plan and went back to work. I lost contact with him afterward but later I learned that he died of a heart attacked just two years after divorce. What a sad story and a constant reminder that life really is short.

[Lotus_Luna]

I know this sounds like a reasonable compromise to a lot of people, and I am also struggling to make a decision. Deep down, I cannot allow myself to stay in a marriage for solely family and financial reasons.

 

A former work associate of mine once told me he and his ex-wife had waited until their kids turned 18 before they tried to work on the relationship. It was too late, they filed for divorced just one year after their kids moved out. Heart broken and financially distressed, he postponed his retirement plan and went back to work. I lost contact with him afterward but later I learned that he died of a heart attacked just two years after divorce. What a sad story and a constant reminder that life really is short.

 

Eventually it comes down to discomfort

 

Is what you’re living in worse then the change? I think many of us stay because it tolerable but not satisfying

We stay too long unhappy but tolerating for the sake of others and our fears