Parents and boyfriend do not get along, I’m stressed.

[LadyRose]

Hi guys, I am posting here because I feel alone and my close friends cannot relate to me. Cody and I have been dating since we were 16(him) and 17(me). We are now 22 and 23. I was a sheltered child and this is my 2nd relationship ever. First guy left me for someone he barely knew because she was prettier. I am not sure if culture has anything to do with this but I am Asian and he is mixed Caucasian-Black. Names are fake because I do not want people to know who I am. Little history:

 

I met Cody on gaming and he wanted to meet and said it was alright for me to bring my cousin Jasmine. He said he worked as a cashier. Jasmine saw his pictures and said Cody is a fake. His pictures are of a professional model from a top model agency who was friends and appears in the same tv series as her favorite musician. I reverse google search and saw his name and he had 225k followers on Instagram. I confronted him and declined his offer on meeting. He made a bet if he can prove he is real then I meet him at the mall like we discussed. He sent me a photo with my name on his hand. I told him good photoshop can do that. His brother told me he was real. I told him it is not uncommon for people to have others back him up. He asked if I had Instagram and if yes to tell him. He ended up following me on the 225k account Jasmine showed me. He DMed me and explained Cody was not his real name, it is an alias because he wants his personal life private and he booked a gig an hour away from me on purpose to meet up after I said yes. I showed Jasmine and she was shocked and said she was still skeptical but this is convincing. We met up at the mall and I was happy he was real and he was a lot more attractive in person so majority of the date was spent making out and slept together in his car(yeah, classy I know). We continued to stay in touch but never mentioned dating so I assumed it was just fun. He called my phone 2 months later but I was in the shower and mom answered. He told my mom he was my boyfriend and was planning to visit in a month and wanted to know if the family wanted to do something. Mom said okay but got mad and snooped through my phone and said I was a loose woman and made me go on the birth control she wanted but it was not compatible and I ended up bleeding heavily everyday for a year straight. After 2 years of long distance he wanted to move in and he did. He left entertainment, moved here and got a assistant management position at my old job after being a cashier because he was great with management and communication. He has been enrolled in college for a year currently and planning to go into business. I am working on my bachelors and masters at the same time and assistant teaching for my internship so it leaves me no time for a job. My parents let me stay so I can focus on school. I get my bachelors in a year and my masters a year after that. So here is the mess:

 

Cody does not get along with his mom. His mother had not been in his life until he was 14 because she wanted to enjoy her youth and not be tied down. His mom is a narcissist. She has actually tried to report me to the police accusing me of taking money from her back account and posted lies about me to have Codys fans spam insults and death threats on my phone and social media in the past. Cody admitted 3 months before we met he attempted suicide by overdose but failed because he was brought to the hospital in time. He could not take the physical and emotional abuse anymore. He still has scars on his arm from when she “disciplined” him. She is reaching out to patch things up. He told her to get out of his life. My parents said they do not like him because his mom has been paying for his phone bill and car payments and wants to patch things up and he was rude to her. They said he was a spoiled ungrateful American that did not appreciate what his mom did for him. Mom said her father used to beat her and kicked her out of the house but he is now a great dad. Dad ended up cheating on mom and he denied it despite there being proof, he accused mom of cheating on him with Cody. Mom was shocked and Cody overhead and went out and told my dad he had kept his mouth shut for a long time but he has to say something about this. He said that is messed up to lie about your daughters boyfriend cheating on her with her mom. I am rarely home because I cannot take parents constant yelling, throwing stuff at each other, and sleepless nights anymore. Whenever I am home my parents keep trying to convince me Cody is abusive and he will abuse me because he treats his mom badly. In our culture, children would not dare disrespect their parents like that and said he was disrespectful when he told dad he was messed up. Claimed he is trying to isolate me from them and kept bringing up what they considered bad things about Cody. Cody is highly suggesting we should get our own place because he can tell I am stressed and this is obvious that him and my parents cannot see eye to eye. My parents also do not like him because he does not like Asian cuisines. He cooks his own food instead of eating the same thing they do.

 

What should I do? If I move out with Cody, I would feel like a burden because he would be paying for the bills. Should I keep talking to my parents? They already made up their mind they do not like him. They also keep bringing it up that he lied about who he was at the beginning. And I am 100% sure Cody never cheated on me with mom. My dad has made up lies before like telling his ex he was not married and no kids.