Am I just being paranoid?

[Izzy Intome]

i'll try to keep this short and sweet. I started chatting with a guy online from a dating site. He said he really liked talking to me and gave me his number. We've been texting for about a week..We really hit it off and arranged to meet this week. Well, the past day or two, I haven't heard from him much. I guess I'm so used to him checking in and texting before bed, which he hasn't the past few days. He already stated how full and busy his life is..Single dad, full time job etc. I've been checking the site we met on to see if he's on there and he hasn't been on at all. Dead silence on there and on the phone. I went through our messages to see if anything was "off" and I don't see anything. We've only been chatting a week and the conversations were still in full swing. I was worried something might have happened. From getting to know him and reading his profile, it doesn't seem his style to just ignore or disappear like that.

 

Right away I feel like it's me..Like I did something or I'm not good enough or wasn't interesting enough.. I can't help it..Past experiences have me feeling that way. But then I think, he wants to meet, so that's something, right? Am I being paranoid? With other guys I've chatted with it just faded off mutually..We had no spark but with this guy we seemed to be in sync..

 

I think i'm feeling extra funky about it because we have plans to meet this week.

 

I texted him last night ..Nothing. Should I check in once more to confirm if we're still going to meet?

 

I feel confused and kind of sad.

[dispatch3d]

I've never been a believer in a bunch of talking before an initial meeting. Maybe its just me not understanding something I don't know, but I like the thing to take place in real life, not over the internet/text message/etc. where its more an idea than a real thing.

[Izzy Intome]

That's understandable..His messages were often long but it's because we were into the conversation..We still have lots to talk about if we ever end up meeting..I'm just trying to understand what happened.

[dispatch3d]

I only had one experience with this. I met some girl over the internet and instantly liked her for some reason, I decided I'd try to talk to her more before we met. We chatted a bunch but I immediately got very needy over text, constant questions etc. Then she cancelled twice, I got mad at her, and that was the end of it.

 

Bit more of a wild ride, but at any rate I would much rather set a date and then meet. Who knows if I actually had any real chemistry with that girl, who I never met.

 

I'm somewhat inexperienced with girls, I'm sure if I knew my emotions a bit better I would have stopped contacting her instead as I would see the writing on the wall so to speak....

[Izzy Intome]

Yup! As soon as you guys hit it off, plan to meet..That's what we did..As for messages, I've learned that I do like messaging before meeting..Even if they're long, so what? Still lots to talk about..That's what I meant about being in sync with someone..If the girl you mentioned was also a texter and liked all those questions, it may have worked out because you're both alike. Maybe that's just me. It's best to meet as soon as you can, especially if you hit it off. That's what I did with this guy, but now I'm not sure what to think.

[dispatch3d]

Yeah it puts the power more in the girls court when that happens, which I hated because girls already have all the power anyways. So maybe you prefer it because it puts you in the driver seat even more, but I can tell you as the guy I do not like it....

[Izzy Intome]

I just prefer texting to see how we banter and get on..But not too much..Some girls are like that when it somes to having the power..Not all! You have to find one that matches your style.