Hopefully i’m doing this right?

[Krakenbrz]

I’ve recently decided to go NC for a while , firstly , We’ve technically been apart since last friday of november , therefore almost two weeks?

And sadly during that time I’ve seen my “ex” three times to which two

Of them were actually not that bad , but of course it was hurting which I came to the conclusion of doing the NC. i’ve been weak and everytime the ex was texting me , I replied , took my time , but replied . Which was wrong for my well being.

It’s been 3 days since I completely stopped contact I just decided to not go On social media aswell, I don’t know if she still has me in her friends and such but at this point I don’t care , I’ve been too nice to her recently cause you know she still broke my heart . For things I still consider fixable.

 

But during that time apart I started going out more ,

I started working out! I would love to hangout with friends but recently my friends have a different view of the things happeneing

They don’t believe in self heal they just believe in (its over? Thats it, move on )

 

There’s no emotions so they don’t want me to talk about it or to hang out because I would need it,

 

But that’s not the point,

 

During that time I manage to understand her point of view ,

She was unhappy , I was too dumb to notice , and to be honest,

As much as i’d like to deny it , I was unhappy too. But I loved her,

Oh god I did, there was a huge lack of communication on both sodes ,

But mostly hers , I would’ve fixed any problem that’s for sure .

I would never want a breakup to happen , I truly loved her and consider this as the one that got away . I know that some days I have HUGE cravings of talking to her , see her , or respond to anything . But I didn’t yet ,

And I’m still stuck between “Oh god I want her right now “ to “you seriously left me for this reason? IT WS EASILY FIXABLE”

 

I know I’m not ready to see her again or talk to her ,

I need to build some sort of confidence even before considering replying ,

 

I just wanted some opinion, anything I could do to help me more?

 

Tbh i think she still has me as her boyfriend everywhere on social media

Because even last time I saw her ,”which I should’nt have” she still had me as her phone wallpaper.

 

But I don’t want to give myself false hopes , because this is breadcrumbs.

 

I know my mistakes in the relationship , and as of right now I would

Still consider trying again , (i’ll try to keep you updated)

 

I’m still moving my stuff from the apartement , but I’m the one living there.

But she’s not living here anymore .

 

Am I doing things right ?

 

I guess I just need some guidance. It would be really appreciated .

 

Thanks !

[d0nnivain]

When you are living together & break up NC is not a luxury afforded to you until you get the legal stuff straightened out. You have to break the lease & deal with those consequences. You have to finalize all the utility bills & get the utilities turned off etc.

 

As for talking to her, if it hurts you, then NC should help you heal. Your friends who are in the just get over it camp are actually advocates of NC. They want to propel you forward out of the pain & over analysis where you wallow in hurt.

 

Keep working out. The exercise endorphins will help.

[Krakenbrz]

To keep you updated , I’m still trying to move on , I had yo see her one last time to arrange the stuff at the apartment, but we’re fully NC since the .

Still working out. And doing anything else than sit here and feel the pain.

I write my thoughts everyday to see the healing process.

It’s only been 3 weeks. But not seen since 4-5 days.

 

I’ve already heard( not that I wanted) that she’s already added this new guy in her life, I’m Guessing it’s going to be a Rebound, maybe not . But I told them to not keep me updated, because of course it hurts , but I’m fully aware it either could be a rebound or the G.I.G.S.

 

But I expect nothing.

 

It’s time to move on.

 

I’ll try to keep you updated .

[Krakenbrz]

It’s christmas, a family holiday!

 

I’ve been doing good so far,

 

But there’s been this time where she texted me and I didn’t answer only to find her in front of the apartment door , I answered, she was there , saying she wanted to get some stuff , I said , I’m about to leave , do you have the keys? She said yes , and I said ok and left.

 

But she seems to have no emotions towards what happened , but of course she should’nt , she’s the dumper after all.

 

When I got home, that was on the 24th, I broke down,

 

I didn’t want to see her, I am always dreaming about her but that was fine.

 

But seeing her. THAT, was something else ,

 

I’m not being responsive , and trying to be as far away possible from anything

That revolves around her...

 

It’s hard , it’s been a bit more than a month now.

I’m still working out I feel way better.

 

But seeing her was not good. It got me to back to square one.

 

It’s not like I wanted to see her..

 

And today she texted my parents for the holidays,

 

I didn’t.

 

But that’s the news , I will eventually move on ,

 

But i’m not there yet..

[Krakenbrz]

Happy New Year everyone!

 

I’ve had a blast with my friends between the 31st and the 1st or January.

 

On my part I’m doing well!

I’ve been doing the same thing I started doing since the breakup!!

 

But I have a question If anyone is interested in responding,

 

Ex -girlfriend sent me a text yesterday saying “I’ll be coming to the apartment

To get my skates ( because every year her family’s side go skating for New Years

Eve) and she wished me a Happy New Year,

 

To which I didn’t respond , as usual, but she then texted me later to tell me

Sorry that I ‘ve bothered you I wont be getting my skates after all.

 

I know that deep down I’m still not emotionally detached because my drunk self

Loves to think about her.

 

But I’m way more stable and I was just wondering if it’s just for her to maybe feel better about herself knowing I’m still there , because it’s not the first time she texts me saying she’s coming to the apartment and she’s not taking anything. But I never responded, she even texted my parents knowing that they would replyI suppose.

 

Just wondering, what could be going on in her mind, I’m think she’s missing me,

But not to the point of wanting to come back, or she just wants to validate that I’m fine .

 

Thanks for any reply!

 

Never Give up on yourself !

[Cersei]

I don't know if she misses you or not but something you should consider doing is packing up all her stuff so she can remove it once and for all and be done with it.

 

Great job on your recovery from this. You sound like you are doing very well.