MaxWake Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 (edited) Hello, Im looking for good souls to ask about my 2 month relation. Maybe u can help me with some tips. We meet in club, we kiss and the next day we though to get some coffee and wine. This day was magic, a lot of emotions to the night, after this day, she send me a message: "I want you to stay with me everytime" Our "relation" was for only 2 months, but we have long trips, sex and good mood. Sometimes she was jealous, offended etc but she is 20, maybe thats why. After last trip, not good weather, rain etc, we had some fights but after all she was happy. In the last day, I was trying to kiss her but she said "I need some space, few days" I was like ok. After 3 days I call her to meet on coffee and talk about us, she said "I think there is nothing anymore" I was like wtf, whats goin on? We had another event booked in few weeks, but after this words I got my best female friend to come with me, we had a good party with good mood - I needed it. I post some photos and after this party I send a msg to my "ex or girl (idk how to call her after 2 month)". She answer "have a fun with new girlfriend". I was trying to explain that she is only my best friend. After that she deleted all my profil from social media, commentaries etc. Right now we have 3 weeks after no contact, we live in same city, we have same parties every weekend in clubs.I saw her last weekend, had conversation with her friends but not with her (my bad maybe I wa suppose to say hello only). I know that she trying to get somebody from tinder, I saw photos from her date 2 days ago. She posted a story about "good evening"... She still checking my stories... We had plans, trips, etc. ehh. Can u help me with that? Im not hiding, I just want to build a bond with her. She have this spark, believing in true love, zodiac etc. Edited December 12, 2018 by MaxWake bad title. Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 Welcome to Loveshack. Sadly when we choose dating, we also choose to sign on the bottom line that our partner can disregard our feelings and stomp on our hearts with total indemnity and lack of responsibility. What likely happened is that she thinks she found a more interesting or more attractive man and she just dumped you. Sadly women are capable of doing such things. I would rest, recover, and keep on dating elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 Sadly when we choose dating, we also choose to sign on the bottom line that our partner can disregard our feelings and stomp on our hearts with total indemnity and lack of responsibility. What likely happened is that she thinks she found a more interesting or more attractive man and she just dumped you. Sadly women are capable of doing such things. Whoa! Consider what you are saying. You're a smart guy, think again. There is a difference between disregarding someone's feelings and a relationship not working out. She is responsible for acting in good faith, we all are. When it didn't work out, it is not one person acting unfairly to the other. The OP here is not a victim. Unrequited desire is a disappointment, it's not someone stomping on your heart which implies deliberate callousness. Most people don't like to reject. That's human nature. It's unfortunate when things don't work out. In some cultures in the past, women were viewed as objects. They couldn't reject men. Humans are equal. She's just saying "I don't want to." Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 Indeed I didn't mean it as a criticism to women specifically, I meant it as everybody can dump everybody else in the weird and wacky world of dating Sorry for creating misconceptions. OP - healing up and taking care of yourself is the best thing to do at the moment. She probably just found someone who made her feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MaxWake Posted December 12, 2018 Author Share Posted December 12, 2018 Of course moving on is the best right now, but, there is a chance in the future to get a coffee with her and just slowly start building a bond? She are like full of emotion person, believing in something, nature etc. Im like a lot of work to make my family living good life - she was like "youre only focusing on money, selfish etc". But I think differently. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 Why did she initially want space after 2 months, OP? I'm not really clear on what exactly happened that led to her telling you that you two were nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MaxWake Posted December 12, 2018 Author Share Posted December 12, 2018 Hmm, our last trip was a little bit in storm, we have dinners, dates etc but I payed for everything. On the road I told her that sometimes she can pay for our coffee (sometimes not everytime). She said "this is my bussines to pay for girl. In place, we had some issuses, offended etc. I was tired after 10h driving, no sleep, in evening little bit of alcohol and I felt weak, after that she call a taxi to get us in hotel. Next day we continue our trip with good mood. We sleep together (but without fireworks). She told her friend that Im like selfish, only calculating money etc. Thats why idk whats goin on. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 In place, we had some issuses, offended etc. Offended by what, exactly? That you asked her to pay for things sometimes? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MaxWake Posted December 12, 2018 Author Share Posted December 12, 2018 A lot of things, this payment, after being jelaous, sometimes just like that. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 I just think you had strong chemistry at first and dived right in, both of you, mutual, but then it didn't last for her. At some point she just knew you weren't the person she was looking for. Always remember that dating is just dating. It's not a marriage proposal. You date to get to know someone. She lost her feelings for you. I'm so sorry. It sounds very disappointing. The good news is you have parties every weekend and will meet new women! Link to post Share on other sites
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