boobooo Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 My ex girlfriend always does this : she texts me and then treats me like **** & sometimes even blocks me then unblocks sometime later to just text me agaig like nothing happened. Anything I say seems to trigger her. She always ends up throwing me off balance after she does this and I feel bad. What should I do ? Why does she keep leaving just to come back later ? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 What to do? Block her. Problem solved 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 Well, unless you want a lifetime of this, since you can't fix her, better block her and dump her. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 Why does she keep leaving just to come back later ? Because you let her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 13, 2018 Author Share Posted December 13, 2018 It’s eaiser said than done ... I still care about her deeply and love her. I’m desperate and I don’t know what to do, I feel trapped . I don’t understand why she keeps doing this to me, I mean if she didn’t want me in her life anymore and doesn’t care about me then why does she always end up coming back ? She treats me like śhįt and whenever I try to confront her, she gets defensive and gets so angry at me, she starts flipping out like it’s all my fault and it makes me wonder if it really was my fault .. I mean what if it was something I said .. and then I start feeling guilty . It eats me up . Then she comes back and this thing usually repeats it self . anything I do or say triggers her . Any advice ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 13, 2018 Author Share Posted December 13, 2018 P.S it’s been a while since we broke up guys . Why does she always end up coming back ? Is it because she still cares about me ? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 Because nobody else will put up with her and she likes an audience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
an0nym0us123 Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 She texts you to see if she still has you on the hook. She pulls a string and you jump. She leaves it a while. Dont block her. Next time just dont reply. She wont know what to think.... Link to post Share on other sites
uniplex Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 It’s eaiser said than done ... I still care about her deeply and love her. I’m desperate and I don’t know what to do, I feel trapped . I don’t understand why she keeps doing this to me, I mean if she didn’t want me in her life anymore and doesn’t care about me then why does she always end up coming back ? She treats me like śhįt and whenever I try to confront her, she gets defensive and gets so angry at me, she starts flipping out like it’s all my fault and it makes me wonder if it really was my fault .. I mean what if it was something I said .. and then I start feeling guilty . It eats me up . Then she comes back and this thing usually repeats it self . anything I do or say triggers her . Any advice ? You need to learn to love yourself more than you love her! Stop putting up with her BS and take control of your life so you can finally experience happiness and TRUE LOVE. Link to post Share on other sites
nolanola Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 She is clearly not going to stop this. She has no interest in treating you well, which should be a prerequisite to getting back together. You cannot control what she does. You know what you can control? What you chose to do in response to her behavior. A lot of us on these boards have been in a similar position. When you're in a back and forth situation with someone and it's making you crazy, the best thing to do is to stop talking to them. I know it's hard and you care about her. But you are teaching her that she can treat you however she wants and you will not only take it, but come back for more. She is losing respect for you. Let that motivate you, if nothing else will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 14, 2018 Author Share Posted December 14, 2018 Thanks for all the advices guys ! I won’t block her but I’m not gonna reply next she texts me . But should I at least send her a text now telling her that she lost me ? I sent her messages earlier telling her that she should watch the way how she treats others and she never responded . Let me know what y’all think . Thanks again . Link to post Share on other sites
nolanola Posted December 14, 2018 Share Posted December 14, 2018 No...let your silence do the talking Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 15, 2018 Author Share Posted December 15, 2018 She is still texting me ... ? what does she want from me ? Why can’t she let me go if she doesn’t love me anymore nor care about me . What should I do ? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 She likes watching you react to her breadcrumbs. Like a cat playing with a mouse. You are playing yourself here. You don't block and let go she'll play with you until she tires of it. You should wake up and quit acting so pathetic. If you want to move on and have a life. Link to post Share on other sites
nolanola Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 Stop responding to her. Full Stop. You can also tell her that you're trying to move on and need some space. Then do not answer her again. No back and forth. Every time you answer her she loses respect for you. If she wanted to get back together, she would say "I want to get back together". Not BS text messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 Why are you asking for Advice but not listening to it?! Everyone has told you to block her but you did not. Block this woman once and for all and let her be someone else's problem dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 15, 2018 Author Share Posted December 15, 2018 Guys I love this woman so much ... I know y’all are right so I decided to stop texting her again . She ignored my last text anyway . But what if she comes back like all the other times she did ? I asked her what does she want from me and she didn’t even give me an answer . She says she can’t trust me, ghosts me for a while and then comes back like nothing happened . She also said once that she can’t be friends with me because she doesn’t trust me but yet she comes back whenever I stop texting her . Does that mean she only cares about her ego and not me ? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 You won't block her. Bite at her breadcrumbs and are living on hopium. The only one keeping you where you are is you. It sounds like you have codepencycodependency issues. You need to get some IC help. While your wasting time on this you could better spend yout efforts looking for someone who is relationship material. You'll need to fix yourself first because most women seek men who are independent, etc. Weakness which you're exhibiting is very unnattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 15, 2018 Author Share Posted December 15, 2018 She always manages somehow to drag me down . I am tried of this guys . I want to write her a long message telling her how I feel about her and this and then IÂ’m going to leave without looking back . What do yÂ’all think ? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 You are also projecting your feelings onto her. I love her so she must love me too? Nope she sure doesn't. Look at her actions. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 She always manages somehow to drag me down . I am tried of this guys . I want to write her a long message telling her how I feel about her and this and then IÂ’m going to leave without looking back . What do yÂ’all think ? A long letter pouring your heart out never works. It's just another sign of your weakness. You drag yourself back into this she doesn't. You have the control over your phone, email, yourself but are to weak to use it. Stop making excuses. She's not doing anything that you don't allow. Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 Either block her or continue to get hurt. Quite simple really. Link to post Share on other sites
Twizzlestick Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 (edited) ? She treats me like śhįt and whenever I try to confront her, she gets defensive and gets so angry at me, she starts flipping out like it’s all my fault and it makes me wonder if it really was my fault .. I mean what if it was something I said .. and then I start feeling guilty . It eats me up ? That style of control is called gaslighting. It can be very subtle. I’m dealing with this. Currently (soon to stop) being strung along on false hope. I’m quite a calm sort. But the twisting, blowing up out of proportion and then projecting the fault back at you can leave your head spinning and doubting what just happened. Though summer I’ve been seeing a psychologist due an issue caused by my field of work. I’ve taken her guidance on my failing relationship too. And yes, what you’re experiencing is gaslighting and breadcrumbing. Technically it’s a form of abuse. No one saying your ex is an “abuser” or anything so strong. But doesn’t mean you should accept it. I’m one step further in that I know it’s wrong, but I can’t preach as I lack the courage and self judgement to pull the plug. But I’ve reached an end point and it’s got to happen now. Edited December 15, 2018 by Twizzlestick Link to post Share on other sites
SunnyWeather Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 She always manages somehow to drag me down . I am tried of this guys . I want to write her a long message telling her how I feel about her and this and then IÂ’m going to leave without looking back . What do yÂ’all think ? what is the point of writing a long message? she knows she can play you and you need to show her she can't. go dark. silence is far more effective then words on a screen Link to post Share on other sites
Author boobooo Posted December 15, 2018 Author Share Posted December 15, 2018 Yeah guys , I’ll be no longer texting her . I last asked her if she could trust me but she never responded . I’ll take that as a no and move on . Thank you guys . She’d rather ignore me and act childishly than act like an adult by communicating and work this out . Should I also delete her number ? Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts