Question for the guys follow up with twist....geez

[Lily blue]

Ok..Hi everyone.

If you have read my post will know what has been going on... Question for guys......

 

I m trying very hard to find a decent job....any apartments here is pretty high and I cannot afford on my own to pay for rent and live on and I do some online work and make money and saving it without him knowing.

Anyway, I have not seen this CEO woman for over 6 months since I do not attended any events or parties...he go without me.

They had employee Christmas dinner party last Thursday and they post some pictures online.

Mostly all the excutives are serving dinners....I asked him if she is going to be there serving dinners? He say he don't know for sure and say maybe not.....but She has to be there as CEO and I know he has to know that....anyway, in the picture,

she looks totally different...she try to look like me?

She is always blond hair..she dyed hair often to cover grey.

Always had short blond hair but after she learn that my guy likes dark long hair...like mine.

She dyed her hair dark and she let her hair long.....

My gut feeling that they still text even thought I cannot see it....

This picture of her threw me off ....she is 55 but she looks attractive now...she had many chemical facial peel done, botox done, lost weight, she got this prescription eye lash thing to grew her lashes last year and she dress very nice sometimes too sexy.....is she doing it or he influenced her?

He has very particular type of women he likes.....thin, dark long hair and he likes women dress sexy not sluty look he told me that and he say my type....

Am I over reacting?

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[stillafool]

Since you are moving out what difference does it make what they are doing? How is the job hunting going?

[Lily blue]

Live in very small town and not much jobs out here that I can do....or pays enough for me to live on my own...looking some kind of room mate thing but still all are asking $500 and up....

It will be a while and I still care about him and he do not wants to break up at all.....he keeps saying just hold on for one more year and he be retired and we can move or do whatever and he been looking in to jobs in another state too all because I can't stand her....he says its all her doing not him...he say she may wants me but I don't want her or anybody else but me.

He say he just trying to hold on to his job untill he retired next year and put up with this bull **** and crazy womens......

I don't know....

[carhill]

Does retirement depend on the female boss? Since he's talking about a job somewhere else he's not retiring in the real sense, just leaving the company? Sounds like a vesting issue or a company with an old-style defined benefit pension where one has to put in the time to get the full benefit.

 

If moving is only a year away, has he already been looking and making contacts in other areas? A year blows by. Then it can become another year, and another, etc.

 

This of course presumes you're still invested in the relationship. IDK, given the parameters, if I wasn't married I'd probably divest. Take a break until he retires and moves and reassess. There's always a way to deal with everyday life. People do it every day. If you all still have the energy and bond, it won't disappear. He seems distracted with this boss so leave him to his distraction, for now.

[clia]

Why don't you ask him about or comment to him about her changed appearance and see how he reacts?

 

I am 100% positive he is still texting with her and 100% positive he knew she would be serving food at the dinner. And I think you know that, too. It's also highly likely she intentionally changed her appearance to be more his type, either at his request or for her own reasons.