Author nobody12 Posted December 19, 2018 Author Share Posted December 19, 2018 So we've been flirting a bit. More me then her. But I've toned it down and started being more humerus n making her laugh.. we are going to a movie tonight. I'm even picking up my ex step daughter from her grandparents house. I'm trying to remain calm n confident.. hopefully all goes well. I wonder if she wants to work things out or if I'm just wasting time. I do no I love her. She must be talking to me n wanting to hangout for a reason? Either then just being nice? What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 (edited) Is she still with her new guy? Still behaving erratically and carelessly? Unless and until the deeper problems are resolved, then any surface-level progress isn't going to mean much, OP. Edited December 20, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 4 running threads have been merged into one for the posters posting , thanks Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 she started going over to her friends all night, and not coming home, leaving me with the kids. she started drinking too. she did this maybe 7 times in one month, so i did it back. i went out all night and didnt come home. (mistake) this fueled her rage where she just screamed at me and ended our relationship. Where did you go? Have you ever cheated on her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nobody12 Posted December 20, 2018 Author Share Posted December 20, 2018 Where did you go? Have you ever cheated on her? i just went to a friends house n slept on his couch, so i might of messed up today, i dono i was talking to her, she exploded on me because shes all stressed about having to drive every where now and she feels like shes doing it all on her own, i said something about her breaking up with me. n she got all mad, but really like she broke up , tried to be independant, im doing everything i can to help her out, shes acting like its not good enough, nothning she says or does makes any sense, its like she doesnt want me to help her but she wants me to help her, like wtf, Link to post Share on other sites
Giraffe-A Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 Sorry you are going through this, but once someone starts acting beyond their usual, it's up to the other person to take control of their emotions and give the other space to figure it out. I too was suspecting drug use and unfortunately, she is not happy with some aspect of her life that she had to take that route again. When you get your emotions under control, see this as it is. Calmly explain to her that you are sad with the situation and wished it were different. If there is any way you could make it better, you're open to ideas, otherwise, if her new relationship makes her happy then it makes you happy. If she needs to talk about anything, you'll be there. And try to find professional help from a counselor if you need it. Get her folks involved if it does turn out to be drugs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nobody12 Posted December 28, 2018 Author Share Posted December 28, 2018 It's wierd I just started coming back out of my shell of darkness today n made a pof n tinder account. I realized that I am better than her n she's dead weight not me! Then she messages me to sleep over. Why the hell would she message me this. What does she expect me to sleep on the couch. Wtf. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nobody12 Posted December 29, 2018 Author Share Posted December 29, 2018 My ex is hot n cold. It's frustrating.she asked me to sleep over last night but I declined because it was so late. Why would she ask me this? Then I messaged her n she didn't reply. I saw her today n she was being all smile n talkative towards me. I didn't ask about the sleep over thing. I was going to tonight but she didn't reply. So frustrating ugh Link to post Share on other sites
Author nobody12 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Share Posted December 30, 2018 So my ex wants to have sex with me. What does it mean Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 Why don't you try living life for yourself instead of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Giraffe-A Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 Are you asking this because you want her back? I think she’s in a lonely place at the moment and you’re a familiar body. Ask her out to dinner and see i she replies. If not, I’d block her. Exes can turn out to be a real time waste. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nobody12 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Share Posted December 30, 2018 Are you asking this because you want her back? I think she’s in a lonely place at the moment and you’re a familiar body. Ask her out to dinner and see i she replies. If not, I’d block her. Exes can turn out to be a real time waste. of course iwant her back. we have a family , n kids, she wants me to sleep over, go shopping with her and now sex, im just trying to figure out the proper steps to reconciliation. i dont want to rush things but i dont want things to get swept under the rug either. and yes thats why im posting in the second chances thread Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 Just speak up and tell her, Look, I'm not getting back together without dealing with our issues. You seem to just want to act like nothing happened. We need to work that out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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