Do you ladies ever instagram stalk the girls that your ex is dating?

[Dodgersfan11]

Like to see what the heck he sees in her? And the type of clothes she wears? And then you buy and wear the outfit she wears.

[Dodgersfan11]

I've been doing this for a few months now, well, I don't think she was the girl he was dating exactly but I noticed how he "liked" ALL of her sexy pictures, some of her outfits were like sundresses, selfies, tops that show the stomach, that type of outfits, and after seeing this, I was enraged! So, now I start buying clothes that show some skin. Which, I never shown much skin before, but I think I'm making wise shopping decisions now.

[snowcones]

Yes I've stalked the girl he was dating after me on social media, but I didn't go out and buy clothes like her or try to be like her. Now he's back with me so who knows what will happen.

[major_merrick]

No Instagram. I stalk them like a pro - with binoculars and a laser rangefinder. (Actually, that was only my husband's ex-wife....I was super upset when he married that idiot...)

[lana-banana]

Social media stalking is normal, to an extent. But I think if you're literally trying to model yourself after his new girl, you've crossed a line. Nobody dates someone for their outfits.

[BaileyB]

Like to see what the heck he sees in her? And the type of clothes she wears? And then you buy and wear the outfit she wears.

 

I’m sure it normal to have some curiousity, but your reaction to this “break-up” with a man who was essentially a one-night stand for you (if this is the same person), is unhealthy.

[BaileyB]

Social media stalking is normal, to an extent. But I think if you're literally trying to model yourself after his new girl, you've crossed a line. Nobody dates someone for their outfits.

 

And if you think the clothes she wears tells you anything about who she is as a person, why he is dating her, or anything about their relationship... it most definitely does not.

[Wallysbears]

No, I have honestly never done this and would find it really creepy if someone basically cyber stalked a person and then started dressing like them, etc.

 

For what purpose?

[d0nnivain]

No. It's creepy.

 

If you are doing it, stop. If somebody is doing this too you, block her.

[Dodgersfan11]

No, I have honestly never done this and would find it really creepy if someone basically cyber stalked a person and then started dressing like them, etc.

 

For what purpose?

 

Well, because I'm jealous that he liked all of her pictures with these "cute" outfits and I realized that I never wore those kind of outfits of showing "skin" you know, of what I seen her wear I started buy more sexy clothing, like I never would have even thought about wearing a backless dress, off the shoulder tops, showing cleavage, but after seeing her wear them. I mean, this is what men what to see, they are visual. And even though it maybe be creepy this will be the only way to get a man's attention when I'm on the prowl. And I realized that what I had in my closet was not even showing skin. I'm really late discovering instagram, I can now browse on their what women are wearing that is sexy, it gave me ideas of what this girl is wearing.

[Lorenza]

I don't consider checking someone's public social media profile as "stalking". Creating a fake profile, requesting to follow or add as a friend to be able to view more content - that's more like stalking. But to look at someone's profile on Facebook - we've all done it.

But I've never got to see any of my exes' girlfriends cause two of them are blocked ever since we've broken up, and the one who isn't never had a new relationship, he told me himself the last time we met up for a coffee. So I got no one to "stalk"

[Lorenza]

Oh, but buying the outfits she wears.. that's creepy...

[Dodgersfan11]

Oh, but buying the outfits she wears.. that's creepy...

 

I just don't see how its creepy, I'm just copying her fashion sense. What about those instagram fashion bloggers? I mean, I look at those and I want to wear the same outfit the blogger is wearing.

[BaileyB]

So, let’s say that you copy her fashion sense and buy some clothing that shows more skin... this guy may have liked it, maybe he doesn’t. You don’t know for sure... Just because I’m dating a guy doesn’t mean that I like his fashion (it doesn’t, trust me!)

 

But, let’s say that he does like it... that doesn’t mean that the next guy you date will. He may pass on you because you are showing too much...

 

My point - be the best YOU that YOU can be. It’s always important to look attractive, but find your own style... and remember, it’s cliche but it’s true - it is what’s on the inside that makes you most beautiful.

[somanymistakes]

Stalk, yes.

 

Buy stuff she buys? No, that's weird.

 

If I'm looking up the new chick it's because I'm being all JUDGEY and I want to make comments about his taste (even if it's just to myself). If he's now dating some skanky garden implement, why would I want to dress myself like THAT? It's just proof that he has no taste and doesn't appreciate me.

 

If you honestly like what she's wearing and it gives you ideas for your own fashion sense and you aren't trying to COPY her just being a little inspired by someone you honestly think is pretty, I guess maybe that's not weird, as long as you're not doing it to try and win back your ex.

[Timshel]

I just don't see how its creepy, I'm just copying her fashion sense. What about those instagram fashion bloggers? I mean, I look at those and I want to wear the same outfit the blogger is wearing.

 

 

I guess it isn't creepy anymore, with the Kardashians holding court with millions in revenue. Who? Dodgersfan, that's who and millions of the same.

 

 

Women all over the world take beauty advice from all formats, we have been for years. So, no hypocrisy here.

 

 

 

What is different Dodgersfan is that you will need to find your own beauty and what you like for yourself. How are you comfortable? That's you and it's one in infinity that you are duplicated, not a chance. There is not another one of you, Dodgersfan.

 

The person that loves you will love you for you. Be patient and calm and think about how you can have adventures and be a benefit to the earth.

 

 

 

For the love of every thing good in the world, get off social media. It is nothing good sweetie. It is not real.

[Giraffe-A]

No, but do understand why you are doing this. There’s nothing wrong by attempting to feminize your look. Just remember to detach yourself from jealousy. Your ex may not be liking her photos because he wants anything serious with her. He made you his gf despite your fashion.

[Prudence V]

Do you

ladies ever Instagram stalk the girls that your ex is dating? ....

And then you buy and wear the outfit she wears.

 

My H’s xW did this to me. Not just clothes - hair colour, hairstyle, etc. It was like that movie “Single White Female”, she really did try to change herself into me. It was super creepy.

 

Of course, it didn’t work. He didn’t go running back to her - he was quite weirded out, especially since it didn’t suit her (she’s a lot older, and a very different body shape, and her whole lifestyle is very different). It also drew loads of comment from colleagues and neighbours, and made people look at her pityingly.

 

It’s not something I could do. I have enough trouble finding stuff to wear that I like, and find comfortable, without worrying about factoring in someone else’s taste, too. Luckily I work in a context where you can wear anything, anyway.

[MissBee]

Like to see what the heck he sees in her? And the type of clothes she wears? And then you buy and wear the outfit she wears.

 

No.

 

I think curiosity is normal, even if things ended well.

 

But changing yourself to become more like your former partner's new partner is a lot more worrisome....