My partner is talking about suicide -- should i report him? His family says no.

[Mr. Lucky]

I don’t believe he has schizophrenia nor does my therapist by the behavior I have described.

 

however he called me freaking out this morning again that police were possibly following him. He said in the call that he was very nervous and he had to go into surgery.

 

Why is the correct label for his disease or disorder even important? He is clearly delusional and paranoid, in an unbalanced state and not of sound mind.

 

You have a son - would you want him operating on your child?

 

Mr. Lucky

[Giraffe-A]

I think that by now, you do have an obligation to say something. He can really end his career by harming someone on the table. Having a breakdown is one thing, but hallucinations and rage point toward something more serious. Most suicidals and outburts of mania happen at night. By morning they are out and about living their best life. Someone in the comments suggested talking to his HR. It could remain anonymous. Best of luck with it.

[bathtub-row]

Why are you still with this guy? He’s completely unstable.

[BaileyB]

Why are you still with this guy? He’s completely unstable.

 

I doubt that she will report him. She is far too concerned with what he will think of her and obviously very conflict avoidant... why else would she stay in a relationship with a man when there are so many obvious red flags!

[salparadise]

I would expect more from your therapist, considering that they must be a mandated reporter.

 

Child abuse and elder abuse are the only situations that are subject to mandated reporting. Also, this is a third party, not the patient.

 

The therapist's responsibility is to the patient, not the boyfriend or his patients. She is advising her to do what is best for her own safety, which is appropriate. That's not to say that I agree with it, only that it appears that the therapist is following guidelines. She's playing safe despite the obvious risks elsewhere.

 

Somebody is going to die before this is over, because the OP only sees things from her own perspective, and looks for the path of least resistance. Which means she does absolutely nothing. I still suspect Schizophrenia.

[preraph]

Thank you for the advice. I know you are right. It’s just hard to swallow. Especially a few days before Christmas. Can I handle leaving now? I have very few family members and they aren’t close to me. It’s going to be hard.

 

On the other hand, Christmas is the season to help your relatives be safe and secure and the perfect time to get shelter from them or whatever you need.

[preraph]

You take your son, no matter what he says, or else he can claim you abandoned your son! Plus he's safer with you during this, obviously. Call the police if necessary to get your son out of the house.

[BaileyB]

Child abuse and elder abuse are the only situations that are subject to mandated reporting. Also, this is a third party, not the patient.

 

The therapist's responsibility is to the patient, not the boyfriend or his patients. She is advising her to do what is best for her own safety, which is appropriate. That's not to say that I agree with it, only that it appears that the therapist is following guidelines. She's playing safe despite the obvious risks elsewhere.

 

Somebody is going to die before this is over, because the OP only sees things from her own perspective, and looks for the path of least resistance. Which means she does absolutely nothing. I still suspect Schizophrenia.

 

I don't disagree with a word you have said. I also have a strong suspicion that this man has schizophrenia, based on the symptoms that have been described. The symptoms that have been described are very suggestive of a mental illness.

 

I am disappointed to hear that the best advice given by the counsellor was "be safe and walk away." Without a doubt, that is good advice for OP. It does absolutely nothing to protect the public safety.