When is it enough ?!?!

[Gretchen12]

Financially stable and crazy are not mutually exclusive traits. Neither are amazing heart and drama. Neither are advanced degree and personality disorder. Interested? You need to give "good women" a chance to show you just how messed up they are inside!

I think you want someone less than you. Being better than her gives you security. Maybe you want to save someone, be a martyr. Don't give up! There are plenty of sociopaths out there with good credit and a house.

[Purepony]

Sounds like you created this thread because you want some changes in your life? Maybe the first step is to resolve not to cheat anymore. Not cheating will give you more self-respect and will make you reluctant to date women that are good on paper but ultimately don’t interest you because you won’t have the thought in the back of your mind that you’ll just have an affair if you get bored.

 

Once you stop cheating you can look for a woman who has what you want. Maybe like Preraph said, you don’t have to go for women who are crazy crazy, you can go for the girls who are the type of crazy that can hold down a job, but get wild in their free time.

 

Be authentic about what you want.

 

 

 

So what’s stopping you? Like I said, you like what you like. Why did you break up with the girl you really liked? Because of the tattoo? She can get it removed or changed to something else if you two get serious. Stop trying to like something that you don’t, be authentic about who you are and what you want. You like wild girls, so go for it and find someone who is just the right amount of wild.

 

What you shouldn’t do is get into relationships with women that you think you should be interested in because they have a good credit score and then cheat on them. That’s very cold-hearted and karma may just come around and bite you one day.

 

 

Thank you for your insight.

 

I don’t get into relationships with women who look good in on paper I get into relationships becauee I like them but then after a while I get bored and then o catch myself being excited about some drama queen like in my current situation.

 

I’m more interested in this single mom with money problems becauee she doesn’t make enough at work becauee she didn’t go to school and she s also fighting for custody again another problem...! Oh and she doesn’t have insurance ...! The list goes on and on

 

I need to drop that

[normal person]

You're going to get bored unless you find someone who can satisfy you both mentally and physically.

 

I've been out with plenty of girls who were objectively gorgeous, but God, some of them were so boring or not on the same mental wavelength as me that I couldn't stand seeing them again. But on the other hand, once you go out with enough girls like that, the girl who's only mentally engaging won't ignite your desires like the other ones.

 

Keep searching until you find one that can do both for you, otherwise you'll always think the grass is greener.

[Yosemite]

I don’t get into relationships with women who look good in on paper I get into relationships becauee I like them but then after a while I get bored

 

This is when you should break up. Not everyone is going to be a match. Finding someone that you have chemistry with is the hardest part of dating, so don’t be surprised if you have to date a lot to find someone you click with.

 

I’m more interested in this single mom with money problems becauee she doesn’t make enough at work becauee she didn’t go to school and she s also fighting for custody again another problem...! Oh and she doesn’t have insurance ...! The list goes on and on 

I need to drop that

 

No, you don’t. You need to accept that high drama women make you happy. This woman sounds perfect for you. Custody issues? Drama. No insurance? More drama. So instead of writing her off, keep going, keep asking her out and dating her. It sounds like she’s holding down a job (even if it is low-paying) and she has to be at least slightly responsible if she’s a single mom, so this could be the perfect balance of drama and normal that we were talking about. She’s not too wild and she’s not too normal; she’s a perfect mix for you.

 

Unless you’re saying that you’re cheating again? If that’s the case, stop cheating. Nothing will change for you until you stop cheating on woman after woman.

[chillii]

You're going to get bored unless you find someone who can satisfy you both mentally and physically.

 

I've been out with plenty of girls who were objectively gorgeous, but God, some of them were so boring or not on the same mental wavelength as me that I couldn't stand seeing them again. But on the other hand, once you go out with enough girls like that, the girl who's only mentally engaging won't ignite your desires like the other ones.

 

Keep searching until you find one that can do both for you, otherwise you'll always think the grass is greener.

 

 

Yep this is about the long and short of it.

You just need the right girl right combo right person.

You just haven't loved anyone or found anyone that makes you in love with her whatever the combo may be when she does turn up.

When she does turn up all is for filled or pretty close. She might be everything you think you like or non of it , but you just will.

That's the one you want whatever she is you'll know her when you see her.

Edited December 21, 2018 by chillii

[Purepony]

You're going to get bored unless you find someone who can satisfy you both mentally and physically.

 

I've been out with plenty of girls who were objectively gorgeous, but God, some of them were so boring or not on the same mental wavelength as me that I couldn't stand seeing them again. But on the other hand, once you go out with enough girls like that, the girl who's only mentally engaging won't ignite your desires like the other ones.

 

Keep searching until you find one that can do both for you, otherwise you'll always think the grass is greener.

 

 

 

Normal person

This resonated with me on so many levels

 

I need to read this several times because you are right