How to meet guys in college?

[xcgirl97]

I want advice for next semester. Currently when I am in class I don't try to sit next to girls but it always ends up with me working with a group of girls in my classes. I want to know how I can get guys to sit next to me and for them to eventually ask me out. I also goto the school gym, I mostly use the cardio equipment so talking to people is not really an option. How can I get guys to talk to me at the gym?

[Happy Lemming]

Its been many, many years since I was in college, but if memory serves; I dated a few young women I met at the "snack bar" before class or during break. It was easier to approach them if they weren't in a group.

 

During my night classes I would often have to grab dinner out of the vending machines. Vending machine soup & sandwich was my usual choice to grab before class. There was usually a woman or two doing the same and we would commiserate about the food. For the record, vending machine soup is horrid.

 

Best of luck...

[d0nnivain]

Smile. Basically it's college, as a woman you don't really need to do much more then show up

[Garcon1986]

Welcome to LS. I have been viciously rebuked by many women on this forum for approaching women at the gym - the reason is the vast majority of women are there to work out, and men face sexual harassment accusations, firing from their job, being a metoo statistic, and all such things. This is a hot button topic if not done perfectly for guys. So - the guys are avoiding you in the gym because this is what's on their mind.

 

If you are single and looking, rest assured you will have thousands of guys to choose from.

 

Where to look - you can go to any extracurricular clubs that suit your fancy. If you want to pick up guys at the gym- you will need to start the conversation with the guys you fancy, because you will need to show you won't just accuse someone of harassment. You have to take the first few steps.

[xcgirl97]

Smile. Basically it's college, as a woman you don't really need to do much more then show up

 

Say I like guy in a class of ~30 people. When you say smile, I usually am smiling if I am talking to people. What else specifically should I do so they know to talk to me.

[xcgirl97]

Welcome to LS. I have been viciously rebuked by many women on this forum for approaching women at the gym - the reason is the vast majority of women are there to work out, and men face sexual harassment accusations, firing from their job, being a metoo statistic, and all such things. This is a hot button topic if not done perfectly for guys. So - the guys are avoiding you in the gym because this is what's on their mind.

 

If you are single and looking, rest assured you will have thousands of guys to choose from.

 

Where to look - you can go to any extracurricular clubs that suit your fancy. If you want to pick up guys at the gym- you will need to start the conversation with the guys you fancy, because you will need to show you won't just accuse someone of harassment. You have to take the first few steps.

 

Going up to the guy is out of the question for me. Props to the ladies who do it. I already am in clubs with guys and I stalked their facebooks/instagram so I know a lot are single. Me just participating in clubs and smiling has not been enough, like I spend tons of time getting ready to look good when I leave for class/clubs and my friends tell me I look really good. Guys on tinder say I am really good looking but I can't get guys in class/clubs/gym to talk to me.

[xcgirl97]

Also I should add I goto a kinda nerdy engineering school, where the guys have a reputation for being nerd/bad with women :/

[d0nnivain]

Say I like guy in a class of ~30 people. When you say smile, I usually am smiling if I am talking to people. What else specifically should I do so they know to talk to me.

 

Make eye contact with them & smile.

 

College boys are not that complicated. Be encouraging by smiling. Try saying hello. Ask a particularly cute one a question. Even if it's lame, he'll be happy you are talking to him.

[Garcon1986]

Is there a reason why going up to guys is out of the question, other than you want to oppose what I am saying for the sake of opposing me?

 

If you are around nerdy guys then you definitely have to lower your standards way way down for any expectation of chivalry, gentlemanliness, or charm. They are focused on engineering, and will as a consequence be extremely nervous with approaching women at the gym. They will either not approach you, approach you in a way you deem creepy therefore you reject them, or you will have to wait for the super confident guy who approaches you.

 

That's my reasoning behind approaching guys. Don't let woman to woman catfights or rumors about your propriety dominate your life. Those other girlfriends of yours don't own your life, you do.

[Logo]

I want advice for next semester. Currently when I am in class I don't try to sit next to girls but it always ends up with me working with a group of girls in my classes. I want to know how I can get guys to sit next to me and for them to eventually ask me out. I also goto the school gym, I mostly use the cardio equipment so talking to people is not really an option. How can I get guys to talk to me at the gym?

 

 

If it hasn't been mentioned already, try to get yourself to work on assignments together, especially when the assignment involves two people. Sit at a desk next to someone you like. Strike up a conversation with random women in the hallway or at the line in the cafeteria. Keep it casual, nothing too serious. Talk about simple things.

 

 

 

The idea is to just talk, talk and talk. The more you put yourself in situations where women can get to hear you talking and get to know you, the higher your chances.

 

 

 

Pro tip, don't expect to meet a girlfriend material girl who's passed out on the floor near the beer pong table at a party.

[rightondude]

if all these guys are socially challenged I hate to say it but you might have to do the heavy lifting.

 

At the gym ask a dude you're attracted to if he's on a particular workout plan. He'll happily let you know he is.

 

Or just smile big at him

 

Or get a friend to intro you. Even if she doesn't know him, if she goes up to them and says "my friend wants to meet you" then the pressure is off you making the intro.

[Dodgersfan11]

College is the best way and easy way to meet guys. Everyone has a common bond and just asking, what classes are you taking? And just asking something related to school can carry a conversation. I just might go back to school for that reason.

[Logo]

I read your post too quickly. I didn't realize you were looking for males, I thought you were interested in females. Sorry.

 

 

 

I think with guys it's a lot easier because you can just join a group of guys at the cafeteria and ask, "hey, can I sit here?" Just strike up a conversation. Girls would find it strange, guys won't.

 

 

 

In the hallway, waiting for a class, you can also ask random questions about homework and stuff like that and strike up a conversation.

[basil67]

As you're in a class of only thirty guys, I would suggest you don't aim for guys in your degree. Thing is, if you date one and it doesn't work out...then it's kind of weird if you have to keep seeing him around or date another guy from your degree.

 

You say you participate in clubs. Do you chat with the guys in the clubs? If not, that's where you need to start.

[MaleIntuition]

The absolutely easiest way to get a guy to talk to you is probably to approach him and say “Hi”.

[clia]

Go to parties. Or find out where people hang out in the evenings -- like the student union, local music venue, etc. -- and go there.

[Wallysbears]

Ask for help - with homework, a project, studying, moving furniture, etc.